“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don't seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser's friends may think the world of him. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol. He may simply not fit anyone's image of a cruel or intimidating person. So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser.” ThinkingMenWorldFeelsMayPersonsProblemSeemsQualityKindnessSuccessfulPeriodsFitDrugIncludingObstaclesAlcoholPartnersWarmthRecognizingNo ProblemUnlikelySpinningIntimidatingAbusiveGood QualityAbusersMistreatmentSuccessful WorkSpinning Out Of Control Author:Lundy Bancroft
“Another California study counted 30,000 substance abusers who are pregnant are White woman. So, The Wire paints the picture of drug addiction, drug dealing, and drug abuse as being a specifically a Black issue.” BlackWhiteStudyIssuesDrugAbusePaintAddictionSubstanceCaliforniaPregnantWireDrug AddictionDrug AddictAbusersDrug AbuseSubstance Abuse Author:Ishmael Reed
“Some of the folks we see are in for defending themselves against their abusers, or drug charges that, because of the California state prison system, they have mandatory sentencing and life in prison for three counts of simple drug possession, or whatever. I find it not only helpful but, I think, necessary in maintaining my grounding and my perspective. Because music is such an unrealistic job to have. It's a really lucky job to have, but it's also very unrealistic.” ThinkingStatesJobsThreeSimplePerspectiveDrugLuckyMusic IsPrisonFolksPossessionCaliforniaHelpfulMaintainingAbusersGroundingPrison System Author:Thao Nguyen
“Ignore that nightmare in the bathroom. Just another ugly refugee from the Love Generation, some doom-struck gimp who couldn't handle the pressure. My attorney has never been able to accept the notion - often espoused by reformed drug abusers and especially popular among those on probation - that you can get a lot higher without drugs than with them. And neither have I, for that matter.” MatterAbleFunnyAcceptingGenerationsHigherDrugPressureNotionUglyHandleNightmareRefugeeBathroomDoomAttorneyAbusersDrug AbuseProbation Book:The Great Shark Hunt: Strange Tales from a Strange Time Source: The Great Shark Hunt: Strange Tales from a Strange Time