“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?” GrowthCompassionCourageCommunicationConflictLetting GoEmpathyWeaknessTestsAdversityTrialsFlawsSeeThe PastAnger ManagementBig PictureCrossroadsProactiveThe FutureLessons LearnedSpiritual EvolutionStaying PositiveRescuersWhite PathSpeculationsSeeing The Big PictureConfict ResolutionFaulty Perceptions Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Tough love and brutal truth from strangers are far more valuable than Band-Aids and half-truths from invested friends, who don’t want to see you suffer any more than you have.” WisdomRealityTruthValuesChoicesUnderstandingFreedomKnowingLearningAdviceHonestyHumilityLife ChangingSelf RespectRealismActionsConsequencesGentlenessTeachersGood AdviceTurning PointsLife CoachStayingpositiveu ComTough LoveStaying PositiveKeeping It RealBlatantEggshellsLiving RealityBrutal TruthGroup TherapyHalf TruthsOpenessWhite PathApplyingInterventionsSugar CoatedFighting For TruthOvercoming EgoLearned Lessons From OthersTipping PointsSwallowing PrideCold RealitySimilar PathsApplied LessonsBand AidsBetter Than ProzacDownplayingFaster TherapyHelping One AnothersProtective FamilyProtective FriendsRight As RainRules WorkSay It Like It IsSlapping Sense Into Loved OnesWaking Up FriendsYour Not Alone Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Do you want to be in your own story or on the outside writing about it? Everyone battles fear and uncertainty every day. However, the only failure in life is believing that your value relies on other people's approval or resources. The reality is this: When you are living your authentic self and not how people want you to act, then you are free to use the full spectrum of your creativity and gifts. People don't need resources to get out of any life situation. They need creativity to create resources. When you realize that, becoming stuck is impossible.” HappinessFightingFriendshipCreativitySelf EsteemBuildingLivingCreatingResourcesBlessedSmileSelf ConfidenceSelf WorthGiftedLovingLiving LifePositive OutlookStay PositiveBe HappyChoosingThrivingOvercoming DepressionYou Are UniqueLoving One AnotherWhite PathHelping One AnotherGoing For What You Want Author:Shannon L. Alder
“To know your life purpose is to connect with a higher power.” InspirationHappinessMotivationPathDreamsConnectedFocusedGuidanceConnectionLife PurposeAuthentic SelfLife GoalsDreamersCenterednessAuthentic LifeCreatorsCenteredWhite PathCloser To GodCorrect PathLife Power Author:Shannon L. Alder
“When people want to win they will go to desperate extremes. However, anyone that has already won in life has come to the conclusion that there is no game. There is nothing but learning in this life and it is the only thing we take with us to the grave—knowledge. If you only understood that concept then your heart wouldn’t break so bad. Jealousy or revenge wouldn’t be your ambition. Stepping on others to raise yourself up wouldn’t be a goal. Competition would be left on the playing field, and your freedom from what other people think about you would light the pathway out of hell.” LoveLifeMindHeartPhilosophyFeelingsTruthHappinessFaithChoicesFoundWinningLostJusticeFreedomCompassionFamilyVisionCareersKindnessLearningPlansIgnoranceFriendsConfidenceSelf LoveEvolutionIntegrityLivingPerceptionDignityOvercomingTransformationCompetitionExtremesGoalsHelping OthersClarityJealousyArroganceSelf RespectInsecurityAgendasSpiritual GrowthHeritageSuperiorityIntrospectionSpeculationLife PurposeQuality Of LifeFamiliesHoustonGod S PlanFreemanWrong ChoicesStayingpositiveu ComBad ChoicesCaring Too MuchContradictionsCommonsenseGuardian AngelsLife DirectionLife StoriesConclusionsHidden AgendasMisleadingLack Of IntegrityWhite PathSelf Esteem 101BakersfieldComeback StoriesPlaying FieldCarrFreno Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Six Beliefs That Set the Course of Your Life 1. If you don’t believe the impossible can happen, then you are right. 2. When you feel like you are less than others, then you are right. 3. When you believe what you have and how you were raised keeps you from having everything you ever dreamed of, you are right. 4. When you believe your mistakes can’t be undone, you are right. 5. When you feel this is the best it is going to get, you are right. 6. When you think someone will never change or rise above their brokenness, you are WRONG!” HappinessUnderstandingGrowthAttitudePowerLearningGrowingSelf HelpConfidenceSelf LoveLessonsAchievementEmpowermentMindsetAspireSelf EmpowermentLimitationsNothing Is ImpossibleAchieving DreamsStayingpositiveu ComAchieversLimiting BeliefsFalse BeliefsWhite PathSelf Esteem 101Creating OneselfCourse In LifeSelf Imposed PainAchievableAspire To InspireWrong BeliefsCourse Of EventsCourse Of Action Beliefs Author:Shannon L. Alder
“More often than not, people who are obsessed with their desires and feelings are generally unhappier in life vs. people that refocus their attention on service to others or a righteous cause. Have you ever heard someone say their life sucked because they fed the homeless? Made their children laugh? Or, bought a toy for a needy child at Christmas time?” PeopleLifeNeedsCharacterHappinessJoyValuesHumanityChangeCommunityAttitudeQualityFamilyPerspectiveEgoAchievementCharityGoalsStuckObsessionSelfishnessObsessedServiceMoralsAltruismHomelessDesiresNew BeginningsDirectionLow Self EsteemNeedyNarcissistCrossroadsWantsSelf AbsorbedStayingpositiveu ComStaying PositiveDirectionsParenting 101RefocusChoose The RightSeeking ApprovalWhite PathFullfillmentRefocusingService ProjectsFamilies ForeverFamily ProjectsFamily SharingResponsibilitesWhat Matteres Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Your dream is to feel good; God’s dream is for you to do good.” LoveHappinessJoyChoicesFreedomKindnessDreamsEnlightenmentCharitySelfishServicePurpose Of LifeLet It GoLet GoNirvanaSelf ServingRise UpDo GoodLoving One AnotherLife MissionChoose The RightBecome BetterWhite PathBeyond BalanceGod S DreamsLet Go Of PrideTipping The Scales Author:Shannon L. Alder
“The best part of the gospel is you get to take it with you wherever your heart lands.” LovePeaceCompassionPromiseTrialsUnconditional LoveAngelsStay PositiveBalloonsMeekJourneysEndless LoveStayingpositiveuniversity ComNever AloneWhite PathThe ShackMeek In Spirit Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Dignity will only happen when you realize that having someone in your life doesn’t validate your worth.” MenJoyChoicesWinningUnderstandingWomenRelationshipsFreedomAttitudeQualityMarriageClassSelf EsteemHumilityPrideConfidenceSelf LoveLessonsLetting GoRespectDignityTestsDatingCompetitionValueGoalsPositive AttitudeSelf RespectWomen EmpowermentUnrequited LoveStrong WomenChasingExperiencesFinding HappinessValidationMove OnCrossroadsRight PathPathsAdventuresThe FutureJourneysWarrior WomenKnowing Your WorthDisconnectingWhite PathYour WorthOne Path Author:Shannon L. Alder
“Every journey taken always includes the path not taken, the detour through hell, the crossroads of indecision and the long way home.” LifeGrowthRelationshipsLearningPathLessonsLivingLovingExperiencesCrossroadsLoving OthersRoadsJourneysRoad Less TraveledWhite PathSpiritual JourneysRobert Frost Author:Shannon L. Alder
“All roads out of hell lead home.” LoveJoyValuesChoicesHeavenPeaceUnderstandingFreedomCompassionFamilyKindnessHellGracePositive ThinkingForgivenessEnlightenmentDignityTransformationPositivityGoalsRedemptionContentmentMoralsNever Give UpCommandmentsNew BeginningsChanging Your LifeRight PathChanging Your MindProdigal SonChoose The RightReturningWhite PathChanging The Way You ThinkHell To WellGood GoalsLiving Righteously Author:Shannon L. Alder