“Hopefulness is the heartbeat of the relationship between a parent and child. Each time a child overcomes the next challenge of hislife, his triumph encourages new growth in his parents. In this sense a child is parent to his mother and father.” HeartChildrenMotherNextFatherParentGrowthChallengesOvercomingTriumphHeartbeatMother And FatherChildren And ParentsHopefulnessNew Growth Book:Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual Source: Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual
“Though they themselves might be as surprised as their parents and teachers to hear it said, adolescents--these poignantly thin- skinned and vulnerable, passionate and impulsive, starkly sexual and monstrously self-absorbed creatures--are, in fact, avid seekers of moral authenticity. They wish above all to achieve some realistic power over the real world in which they live while at the same time remaining true to their values and ideals.” WorldSaidRealSelfFactsMightValuesWishParentMoralTeacherAchieveCreaturesIdealsPassionateAuthenticityVulnerableRealisticReal WorldAdolescenceSeekersImpulsiveSelf AbsorbedAvidParents And Teachers Author:Louise J. Kaplan
“When a child becomes an adult . . . the elders are fearful. And for good reason . . . not we but they are the germinators of future generations. Will they leave us behind as we did our parents? Consign us to neatly paved retirement villages? Trample us in the dust as they go flying out to their new galaxies? We had better tie them down, flagellate them, isolate them in the family cocoon, . . . indoctrinate them into the tribal laws and make sure they kneel before the power of the elders.” ChildrenReasonLawParentBehindsGenerationsAdultsFlyingDustTiesVillageRetirementFearfulAdolescenceGalaxyEldersFuture GenerationCocoons Author:Louise J. Kaplan
“We belong to that order of mammals, the primates, distinguished by its propensity for repeated single litters, intense parental care, long life-spans, late sexual maturity, and a complex and extensive social existence... Our protracted biological and psychological helplessness, which extends well into the third year of life, intensifies the bond between infant and parents, making possible a sense of generational continuity. In contrast to other primates these bonds are not obliterated after sexual maturity.” YearsWellsLongCareOrderSocialParentExistenceLateThirdsComplexesIntensePsychologicalMaturityContrastInfantLong LifeDistinguishedContinuityHelplessnessParentalBondingPropensityMammalsPrimatesLife SpanYears Of Life Book:Adolescence: The Farewell to Childhood Source: Adolescence: The Farewell to Childhood
“Young people...have more compassion and tenderness toward the elderly than most middle-aged adults. Nothing--not avarice, not pride, not scrupulousness, not impulsiveness--so disillusions a youth about her parents as the seemingly inhumane way they treat her grandparents.” PeopleWayYoungParentCompassionMiddleYouthPrideAdultsTreatsTendernessGrandparentElderlyAvariceMiddle AgedDisillusionInhumane Author:Louise J. Kaplan
“What eleven- to thirteen-year-old boys fear is passivity of any kind. When they do act passively we can be fairly certain that it is an act of aggression designed to torment a parent or teacher. . . . Mischief at best, violence at worst is the boy's proclamation of masculinity.” YearsKindCertainParentBoysTeacherViolenceWorstAggressionMasculinityTormentElevenMischiefThirteenPassivityProclamationThirteen Year Olds Book:Adolescence: The Farewell to Childhood Source: Adolescence: The Farewell to Childhood
