Home / Authors / Shelby Forsythia

Shelby Forsythia Quotes

Author

Browse famous quotes by Shelby Forsythia.

Filter quotes by topic

All Grief Loss Grief And Loss Death Bereavement Grief Support Inspirational Permission Love Resilience Identity Life Recovery Grieving Emotion Uncertainty Belonging Emotions Expectations Action

Famous Shelby Forsythia Quotes

“Society doesn’t give us permission to grieve, but we can.”

Loss Grief Society Heartbreak Grieving Grief And Loss Permission Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Grief does not want to be held, blocked, or braced against. Grief does not want to be quarantined, scrutinized, or shamed into disappearing. Just like every other emotion, grief wants to be able to move through you, free from judgment, criticism, or camouflage.”

Feelings Loss Grief Emotion Judgment Emotions Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Letting grief become action is about the body. It’s literally about taking grief outside of yourself and letting grief’s emotions and identities be expressed in the physical world around you. Whether there are witnesses or not, it’s tangible evidence that grief has called you to make or do something. The act of doing something is a visible marker that grief has had and is continuing to have an impact on your life.”

Action Grief Emotion Identity Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Letting grief become action is about the body. It’s literally about taking grief outside of yourself and letting grief’s emotions and identities be expressed in the physical world around you... The act of doing something is a visible marker that grief has had and is continuing to have an impact on your life.”

Life Action Loss Grief Emotion Identity Grief And Loss Doing Grief Support

Author:Shelby Forsythia

“You are allowed to live and feel the experience of grief. By giving yourself permission to experience grief emotions and letting grief move through you, you are allowing grief (and by extension, yourself) to show up how it wants to, not how society wishes it would. There is immense self-love in that. In allowing yourself permission to feel, you are allowing your- self to show up as a whole human being, not just the parts of a human that you (or society) consider to be “appropriate,” “pretty,” or “worthy.”

Love Life Loss Grief Human Grief And Loss Permission Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“With permission to grieve, we stop yelling at ourselves to be stronger or different or better in our pain and shift to witnessing ourselves instead.”

Grief Grieving Grief And Loss Permission Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Permission is the key that unlocks the door that’s been holding us trapped, muzzled, and stifled in our grief. Permission is the opposite of rejection. Permission is the opposite of abandonment. Permission lifts the weight, eases the pressure, and loosens the reins.”

Loss Grief Grieving Grief And Loss Permission Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“When we refuse ourselves permission to grieve, we shut off a vital piece of our hearts that needs seeing, expressing, and loving: a wounded child, a raging wolf, an injured spirit. When we give ourselves permission to grieve, we embrace the child. We release the wolf. We heal the spirit. We run towards what scares us most only to find that “it” is ourselves... and it’s not so much scary as is it is afraid. And we don’t want the fear to go away as much as we want the fear to be seen, heard, and wholeheartedly loved.”

Loss Grief Grieving Grief And Loss Permission Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“You cannot fix, change, or remove another person’s grief. You cannot “spare” someone the pain of grieving a loss. Your grief belongs to you; their grief belongs to them.”

Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Grief is pervasive. It cannot be quarantined any more than love can be quarantined. Grief affects all areas of life.”

Love Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“The solution to grief is not a pain-free existence. It is allowing ourselves to grieve and witnessing ourselves in that process. Permission and presence are the remedies for agony and isolation.”

Loss Grief Mindfulness Grief And Loss Permission Presence Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Grief ripples out and sends powerful tremors through our foundation, through our hobbies, through our loved ones, and through our minds. For the first time in our lives, we can- not compartmentalize the hard, the bad, or the sad. There’s nowhere to tuck it away because every single aspect of our lives is infected with and tainted by grief.”

Death Loss Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“In grief and loss, it becomes incredibly hard to recognize who we are. Grief makes us different people. Everything that we identify with—from our emotional states to our patterns to our dreams to our fears to our preferences to our core truths— everything fractures and shatters under the weight of loss.”

Life Death Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“If you’re grieving, you have become—at least partially—someone you don’t recognize.”

Death Loss Grief Identity Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Sitting next to grief and allowing it to root through your former life while slowly unfurling into your new life requires the kind of patience, gentleness, and self-love that many of us have never had to summon before. Remember that at its core, permission is about telling the truth about where you are right now. And sometimes that truth means saying, “I don’t know.”

Loss Grief Self Help Self Love Uncertainty Grief And Loss Unknown Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“As life continues, so will grief.”

Life Loss Grief Grief And Loss Bereavement Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“When we grant ourselves permission to grieve, we make the experience of grief something we recognize, something we welcome into our lives. We allow it to show up the way it wants to through feelings, identities, and actions. We write our own expectations and stories. Our grief becomes ours again and we become more ourselves again because we actively choose to experience grief.”

Stories Feelings Loss Grief Identity Emotions Expectations Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Grief wants to be seen, heard, and listened to... just like we do.”

Love Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“While grief invites us to feel the full spectrum of human emotions, it also invites us to deepen our love for ourselves. That means feeling exactly how we’re feeling in every moment. That means meeting and embracing the darkest, ugliest, most conventionally “unlovable” pieces of ourselves and acknowledging that yes, even grief belongs to us, too.”

Loss Grief Belonging Grief And Loss Belong Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“you can’t skip the uncertainty of not knowing who you are. You can’t skip the reality of having an uncertain identity. It’s often the hardest part of grief, because unlike shifting feelings that can resolve themselves in minutes or hours, shifting identities can take years to resolve. Sometimes who you are is “suspended” for a very long time before you feel like you’ve found solid footing again.”

Loss Grief Self Help Identity Self Love Self Improvement Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Relationships continue even when they are radically changed by death, divorce, diagnosis, or another loss. Grief continues, too. For as long as we continue to live, we continue to grieve.”

Death Loss Grief Divorce Diagnosis Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“I stood laughing in the kitchen because for the first time since my mom had died, I saw my whole self in my grief. I embraced her and let her be what she was. I didn’t reject her life, and I didn’t reject her in mine. I allowed her to show up as the messy, heartbroken, rage-filled nut that she was...and I loved her. I was delighted by her and humored by her and honored to be in her powerful, awesome presence.”

Life Humor Loss Grief Laughter Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Asking our emotions to stay predictable, easy, and flat in grief is like asking the ocean to be a smooth, glassy, back- yard pool. It’s just not possible. Can you imagine an ocean that didn’t roar and crash into the shore? It wouldn’t be an ocean, would it? We allow our humanness in grief by giving ourselves permission to experience our feelings in their fullness as they surface.”

Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Grief does not want to force itself into a life, a body, or an identity it has outgrown. Grief does not want to take shelter in a new life, a new body, or a new identity it is not ready to call home. Grief wants to be given time, space, and support in the in-between. It wants to be given room to help you decide who you are in the aftermath of loss without the pressure to decide RIGHT NOW.”

Loss Grief Identity Pressure Belonging Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Grief looks, feels, and shows up differently to each person. Just like no two losses are alike, no two griefs are alike, either. You cannot know the full depth of another person’s experience and they cannot know the full depth of yours.”

Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

“Once grief enters your life, it remains a part of your life whether you acknowledge it or not.”

Loss Grief Grief And Loss Grief Support

Book:Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

Source: Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of Loss

About the Author

Known for: Author
Quotes: 64

Books & Sources

Permission to Grieve: Creating Grace, Space, & Room to Breathe in the Aftermath of LossRelated source material

Your Grief, Your Way: A Year of Practical Guidance and Comfort After LossRelated source material