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“We're cautious. How many people do you know whose crying out is for intimacy? They want to be known. They want to be touched. But they can't make that intimate connection without being vulnerable. You have to be vulnerable in order to achieve this exchange of intimacy. And you can't be vulnerable unless you can trust the situation. And what we're learning, many of us, is the world is not trustworthy enough for you to be vulnerable to it and gain that intimacy.”

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Barry Lopez
Barry Lopez

Barry Lopez, born on January 6, 1945, is an American author known for his exploration of nature, culture, and the relationship between humans and the natural world. more

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