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“Remember, you can’t do all the work. Be content to help a patient realize what must be done and then trust his or her own desire for growth and change.”

Book:Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy

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Love's Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy

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Irvin D. Yalom

Irvin D. Yalom is an American author renowned for his psychological novels and philosophical reflections. His works delve into the essence of human existence, as well as psychotherapy and interpersonal relationships. more

“I am not sure how we came to believe that we know more about what our people need than they do. A core, culturally supported assumption about their brokenness may have something to do with it, and so might our left-dominant culture and training that makes it more challenging to be present to anyone's implicit experience. Many it is equally about our inability to trust our own inner wisdom to guide us because no-one helped us listen when we were young. Without this trust, we may get frightened for our people and the process, and such feelings bring on the need to assert control ... experiment with the pause, remembering that our rupture and repair are optimal, trust will grow as we and our 'patients' stumble together into the tentative, fluid process of attunement with one another that supports the awakening of the inherent wisdom and health.”

Compassion Trust Self Acceptance Therapist Person Centered Attunement Left Hemisphere

Author:Bonnie Badenoch

“I smiled broadly. " ...This is your body's wisdom speaking to us, sensing when it is safe to go forward, pulling back a bit when it might be too much. You and I are just getting to know one another, so I really respect the caution and protection in your inner world." ... With visible relaxation in her body and strong eye contact, she said, "All my life people have criticized me for being cautious. It means a lot that you like that I'm that way." W”

Trust Anxiety Safe Space Person Centered Psychological Safety Body Wisdom Somatic Healing Therapy Case Study

Book:The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“There are so many valuable techniques for regulation, for exploring and integrating traumatic experience, and so on. Once we get to know these protocols, they may pull on us in ways that invite us to seize control of the therapy. The other pathway suggests that her system holds the answers and that if I can offer enough safe support, it will likely begin to speak with us. At least cognitively, I can recognize that this person's inner world contains much more information about the root causes of her upset than I do. From this perspective, I am less interested in dealing with symptoms than moving towards making room for the implicit origin to emerge so that the protective systems can take care of themselves.”

Trust Safety Person Centered Psychological Safety Attunement Body Wisdom Implicit Healing Flexible Therapy Multimodal Therapy

Book:The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

“This was the unexpected ... unforeseeable resolution of the paradox ... her personal goodness was no longer the issue because it had been replaced by the sweetness of relationship.”