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“There were more important things than passion and love in a marriage, such as understanding, affection, compassion, and that most godlike act a person could perform forgiveness. Love was secondary to any of these. Unless, that is, one lived in novels or romantic movies, where the protagonists were always larger than life and their love nothing short of a legend.”

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Book:The Forty Rules of Love
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