“Raising a daughter is an extremely political act in this culture. Mothers have been placed in a no-win situation with their daught ers: if they teach their daughters simply how to get along in a world that has been shaped by men and male desires, then they betray their daughters' potential But, if they do not, they leave their daughters adrift in a hostile world without survival strategies.” IfsMenWorldHas BeensPoliticalMotherDesireCultureWinningSituationTeachSurvivalDaughterStrategyMalesBetrayHostileMother DaughterAdrift Author:Elizabeth Debold
“In some cultures they don't name their babies right away. They wait until they see how the child develops. Like in Dances with Wolves. Unfortunately, our kids' names would be less romantic and poetic. "This is my oldest boy, Falls off His Tricycle, his friend, Dribbles His Juice, and my beautiful daughter, Allergic to Nuts.” ChildrenWould BeKidsBeautifulFallCultureNamesWaitingBoysBabyDaughterPoeticNutsJuiceAllergicDribbleBeautiful DaughterTricycles Author:Paul Reiser
“Women themselves condition their daughters to serve the system of male primacy. If a daughter challenges it, the mother will generally defend the system rather than her daughter. These mothers, victims themselves, have unwittingly become wounded wounders. Women need to attack culture's oppression of women, for there truly is a godlike socializing power that induces women to "buy in" or collude, but we also need to confront our own part in accepting male dominance and take responsibility where appropriate.” IfsNeedsMotherCultureWomenChallengesResponsibilityAcceptingConditionsDaughterVictimMalesOppressionAppropriateWoundedTaking ResponsibilityDominanceGodlikeSocializingPrimacyMale Dominance Author:Sue Monk Kidd
“One encounters very capable fathers abashed by their piano-playing daughters. Three measures of Schumann make them red with embarrassment.” CultureThreeFatherCapableDaughterRedPianoEncountersEmbarrassmentPiano PlayingSchumann Author:Alfred Doblin
“Fathers are still considered the most important "doers" in our culture, and in most families they are that. Girls see them as thefamily authorities on careers, and so fathers' encouragement and counsel is important to them. When fathers don't take their daughters' achievements and plans seriously, girls sometimes have trouble taking themselves seriously.” StillsImportantSometimesCultureGirlFatherCareersPlansTroubleAuthorityAchievementDaughterEncouragementDoersThat Girl Book:Daughters: from infancy to independence Source: Daughters: from infancy to independence