“Fear-of not being loved, of abandonment, of being thought to be selfish-is the main thing that keeps us vulnerable and bound in the chains of emotional dependence. Therefore, our two most difficult challenges are to truly believe it is okay for us to be ourselves and to learn to live with, move through, and heal our fears.” BelieveTwoMovingDifficultChallengesEmotionalOkayBoundsSelfishHealChainsVulnerableBeing YourselfDependenceAbandonmentBeing LovedBeing SelfishDifficult Challenges Author:Sue Thoele
“We need others for our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Without others we are nothing. Our sense that we are an island, an independent, self-sufficient individual, bears no relation to reality. It is closer to the truth to picture ourself as a cell in the vast body of life, distinct yet intimately bound up with all living beings. We cannot exist without others, and they in turn are affected by everything we do. The idea that it is possible to secure our own welfare while neglecting the welfare of others, or even at the expense of others, is completely unrealistic.” NeedsWellsIdeasSelfBodyRealitySpiritualTurnsIndividualEmotionalBearsRelationIndependentBoundsSecureCellsWell BeingWelfareIslandsSufficientNeglectExpensesAffectedSelf Sufficient Author:Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
“Ours was the Togetherness Generation. We equated togetherness with salvation, and expected so much from it that it was bound to let us down. Companionship, security, lifelong physical and spiritual and emotional warmth - all were to be had for the twist of a ring and the breathing of a vow. And to be had no other way.” WaySpiritualMarriageGenerationsSecurityEmotionalSalvationBoundsExpectedRingsBreathingWarmthCompanionshipTwistsTogethernessVowLifelong Author:Shana Alexander
“Denial is the lid on our emotional pressure cooker: the longer we leave it on, the more pressure we build up. Sooner or later, that pressure is bound to pop the lid, and we have an emotional crisis.” EmotionalPressureCrisisBoundsPopsDenialSooner Or LaterCookers Author:Susan Forward
“Investing is a negative game emotionally. If you're playing for the emotional satisfaction, you're bound to lose, because what feels good is often the wrong thing to do. When all the criteria are in balance, do the thing you least want to do.” IfsWantFeelsGamesLosesEmotionalBalanceNegativeBoundsInvestingSatisfactionFeel GoodThings To DoCriteriaWrong Things Author:William Eckhardt
“I've found that most people who are bound together legally would be a damn sight happier together -or apart -if they were released from the contract. A man-woman relationship is physical and emotional, not legal.” PeopleIfsMenWould BeTogetherFoundEmotionalSightBoundsDamnContractsMen Women Author:Madalyn Murray O'Hair