“Thomas Gordon, founder of P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training), observed that when children are behaving in a way that interferes with your ability to meet your needs, shouting direct orders to them doesn't work very well. So, he advised sending I messages. That is, a better alternative to, Your room is a disaster area-clean it up this minute, would be something like, I get embarrassed when Mrs. Johnson is visiting and sees your room looking this messy, so I need you to clean it up.” WayNeedsWellsChildrenWould BeOrderParentAbilityRoomsMinutesMessagesTrainingAreasDirectCleanDisasterAlternativesHuman ConditionFoundersInterfereEmbarrassedNeed YouEffectivenessJohnsonMessyVisitingShoutingI Need YouYour Room Author:Ben Yagoda
“It is customary for columnists to complain about the excesses of Premiership footballers, whenever - as happens regularly - there is an incident involving some combination of sex, drugs, drink, violence and the constabulary. But modern footballers have a lot of both money and disposable time, a combination that has proved a recipe for personal disaster throughout history. And these incidents take place generally round night clubs rather than football clubs. The average Premiership player who turned up for work drunk would have a career-expectancy measurable in minutes.” HappensNightSexCareersPlayerViolenceModernMinutesFootballDrinkDrugRoundsAverageClubsComplainingDisasterDrunkSoccerCombinationAnalysisExcessRecipesIncidentsInvolvingFootballerDisposableColumnistsExpectancyFootball ClubsNight ClubSex Drugs Author:Matthew Engel
“If you spend five minutes with me or watch me try to balance my checkbook, you can only imagine the disaster I would make of anyone's legal issues.” IfsTryingWatchesIssuesFiveImagineMinutesBalanceDisasterFive MinutesWatch Me Author:Greg Giraldo