“Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything.” BelieveKidsParentChinese Book:Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Source: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
“Western parents try to respect their children’s individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they’re capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits, and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.” WayTryingBelieveChildrenChoicesPassionParentEnvironmentHabitProtectSkillsCapableWesternIndividualityBest WayPursueChineseContrastProvidingPreparingNurturingReinforcementTrue PassionWork HabitsPositive Reinforcement Author:Amy Chua
“Real self-esteem has to be earned. I also believe in virtuous circles, like, nothing is fun until you are good at it. It is great if you can instill in children the ability to not give up, to have a work ethic.” IfsGivingBelieveChildrenRealSelfFunAbilitySelf EsteemGiving UpEthicsCirclesEsteemVirtuousWork EthicNot Giving UpInstillReal Self Author:Amy Chua
“I was raised, myself, by extremely strict but also extremely loving Chinese immigrant parents. To this day, I believe that their having high expectations for me, coupled with love, was the greatest gift that anyone's ever given me. And so that's why, even though my husband is not Chinese, I try to raise my own two daughters the same way.” WayTryingBelieveTwoMotherGivenI BelieveParentMy OwnHusbandExpectationsDaughterRaisesRaisedChineseImmigrantsMy HusbandThis DayStrictGreatest GiftsHigh ExpectationsTwo DaughtersImmigrant Parents Author:Amy Chua
“I do believe that when your child does poorly on a test, your first step should not necessarily be to attack the teacher or the school's curriculum. It should be to look at the idea that, maybe, the child didn't work hard enough.” ShouldFirstsBelieveLooksChildrenDoeIdeasHardEnoughSchoolStepsTeacherHard WorkTestsYour ChildrenFirst StepsCurriculum Author:Amy Chua
“The Chinese model calls for giving your kids very little choice - and I've come to see that you can go too far with that. On the other hand, I also believe that Western parents sometimes give their young kids too much choice.” GivingBelieveLittlesSometimesHandsKidsYoungChoicesParentToo MuchModelsWesternChinese Author:Amy Chua
“There are all these new books out there portraying Asian mothers as scheming, callous, overdriven people indifferent to their kids' true interests. For their part, many Chinese secretly believe that they care more about their children and are willing to sacrifice much more for them than Westerners, who seem perfectly content to let their children turn out badly. I think it's a misunderstanding on both sides. All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. The Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that.” PeopleThinkingWantBelieveChildrenBookIdeasDifferentSeemsCareKidsMotherTurnsParentSidesInterestSacrificeWillingChineseDecentIndifferentBoth SidesMisunderstandingAsianNew BooksPortrayingWesternersCallousDifferent Ideas Author:Amy Chua
