“Parenting is the hardest thing I have ever done. I tried to find the balance between the strict, traditional Chinese way I was raised, which I think can be too harsh, and what I see as a tendency in the West to be too permissive and indulgent. If I could do it all again, I would, with some adjustments.” IfsThinkingWayDoneBalanceWestRaisedHardestTraditionalTendenciesChineseIf I CouldHarshStrictHardest ThingAdjustment Author:Amy Chua
“I think there are many ways to raise great kids. From what I can tell, Ayelet Waldman's kids are interesting, strong, and happy, and if that's the case, that's good parenting.” IfsThinkingWayI CanKidsStrongInterestingCasesRaisesGood ParentGood Parenting Author:Amy Chua
“But just because you love something, I added to myself, doesn't mean you'll ever be great. Not if you don't work. Most people stink at the things they love.” PeopleIfsMeanStink Book:Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Source: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
“A lot of parents today are terrified that something they say to their children might make them 'feel bad.' But, hey, if they've done something wrong, they should feel bad. Kids with a sense of responsibility, not entitlement, who know when to experience gratitude and humility, will be better at navigating the social shoals of college.” IfsKnowsFeelsShouldChildrenDoneMightKidsTodaySocialParentResponsibilityHumilityCollegeGratitudeHeyTerrifiedEntitlementSense Of Responsibility Author:Amy Chua
“Real self-esteem has to be earned. I also believe in virtuous circles, like, nothing is fun until you are good at it. It is great if you can instill in children the ability to not give up, to have a work ethic.” IfsGivingBelieveChildrenRealSelfFunAbilitySelf EsteemGiving UpEthicsCirclesEsteemVirtuousWork EthicNot Giving UpInstillReal Self Author:Amy Chua
“Don't assume your child is weak. If you, the parent, assume that they can't take anymore, what kind of signal are you sending them?” IfsKindChildrenParentWeakAssumingYour ChildrenSignals Author:Amy Chua
“I think if you're a 'tiger parent' early on, you don't need to be a 'helicopter parent' in high school.” IfsThinkingNeedsSchoolParentHigh SchoolTigersHelicopters Author:Amy Chua
“I'm a slave to my dogs and go out with them almost every day. They are poorly behaved if they don't run. They really act up.” IfsRunningDogSlaveMy Dog Author:Amy Chua
“When I was little, my parents really only wanted me to be a scientist or a doctor; they had never even heard of law school. I think even these days if you were to tell your mother you want to be a fashion designer, or an artist or a writer, a lot of Asian parents would be alarmed because they don't think that's a secure career.” IfsThinkingWantLittlesWould BeWantedSchoolLawMotherArtistParentCareersHeardFashionDoctorsScientistSecureThese DaysDesignerAsianFashion DesignerLaw School Author:Amy Chua
“I'm suggesting that, ironically, the secret to becoming a world 'hyperpower' is tolerance. If you look at history, you see great powers being very tolerant in their rise to global dominance.” IfsWorldLooksSecretBecomingToleranceDominanceGreat PowerSuggesting Author:Amy Chua
“Some parents let their kids sleep at other people's houses, where they drink alcohol, watch TV for hours and God knows what else. But if you say you have to get all A's and practice the violin for two hours, then they consider that abusive. That upsets me.” PeopleIfsKnowsTwoKidsHouseParentHoursSleepWatchesPracticeTvsDrinkAlcoholUpsetGod KnowsViolinAbusive Author:Amy Chua
“When I'm not the Tiger Mom, I'm a professor at Yale Law School, and if one thing is clear to me from years of teaching, it's that there are many ways to produce fabulous kids. I have amazing students; some of them have strict parents, others have lenient parents, and many come from family situations that defy easy description.” IfsWayYearsKidsSchoolLawEasyParentSituationClearOne ThingTeachingStudentsProduceMomDescriptionProfessorsStrictTigersFabulousLaw SchoolYaleLenient Author:Amy Chua
“You know, parenting is so personal. And we're all afraid that we didn't quite get it right. And it feels like the stakes are so high. By we - what if we made a mistake?” IfsKnowsFeelsMadeMistakeWhat IfStakesMade A Mistake Author:Amy Chua
“Never complain or make excuses. If something seems unfair, just prove yourself by working twice as hard and being twice as good.” IfsHardSeemsProveExcuseComplainingUnfairProving Yourself Book:Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Source: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
