“The fact is that Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners. Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, "Hey fatty-lose some weight." By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of "health" and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self image.” StillsEndsSelfFactsSeemsKidsMotherParentTermCan DoLosesTalkingIssuesEatingDaughterNegativeWeightWesternHeyChineseTherapyDisorderContrastEating DisorderUnimaginableWesternersTiptoesFatty Book:Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Source: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
“I was raised, myself, by extremely strict but also extremely loving Chinese immigrant parents. To this day, I believe that their having high expectations for me, coupled with love, was the greatest gift that anyone's ever given me. And so that's why, even though my husband is not Chinese, I try to raise my own two daughters the same way.” WayTryingBelieveTwoMotherGivenI BelieveParentMy OwnHusbandExpectationsDaughterRaisesRaisedChineseImmigrantsMy HusbandThis DayStrictGreatest GiftsHigh ExpectationsTwo DaughtersImmigrant Parents Author:Amy Chua
“Everything I do as a mother builds on a foundation of love and compassion.” MotherCompassionFoundationLove And CompassionFoundation Of Love Author:Amy Chua
“I say 'I love you' to my daughters every day.” MotherLove YouDaughterMy DaughterSay I Love You Author:Amy Chua
“Oddly enough, I'm not a particularly judgmental person. I just don't have a lot of filtering when I'm in 'tiger mother' mode. I say what comes into my head.” PersonsEnoughMotherTigersJudgmentalJudgmental Person Author:Amy Chua
“When I was little, my parents really only wanted me to be a scientist or a doctor; they had never even heard of law school. I think even these days if you were to tell your mother you want to be a fashion designer, or an artist or a writer, a lot of Asian parents would be alarmed because they don't think that's a secure career.” IfsThinkingWantLittlesWould BeWantedSchoolLawMotherArtistParentCareersHeardFashionDoctorsScientistSecureThese DaysDesignerAsianFashion DesignerLaw School Author:Amy Chua
“My youngest sister, Cindy, has Down syndrome, and I remember my mother spending hours and hours with her, teaching her to tie her shoelaces on her own, drilling multiplication tables with Cindy, practicing piano every day with her. No one expected Cindy to get a Ph.D.! But my mom wanted her to be the best she could be, within her limits.” WantedRememberMotherHoursTeachingMomLimitsTablesMy MomSpendingExpectedPianoTiesBeing The BestSyndromesMultiplicationDrillingCindyDown SyndromeShoelaces Author:Amy Chua
“I am definitely a Type A personality, always rushing around, trying to do too much, not good at just lying on the beach. But I'm so thankful for everything I have: wonderfully supportive parents and sisters, the best husband in the world, terrific students I love teaching and hanging out with, and above all, my two amazing daughters.” WorldTryingTwoLyingMotherParentToo MuchTeachingStudentsTypePersonalityHusbandDaughterBeachHanging OutSupportiveTerrificRushingMother DaughterBest HusbandLove TeachingRushing AroundSupportive Parents Author:Amy Chua
“I kind of - I like my life, I feel I have lots of opportunities. And my parents actually having had such high expectations for me - I would say it's the greatest gift that anyone has ever given me. I complained a lot when I was little, but that's how I feel now. And that's why I tried to do the same with my two daughters.” FeelsKindLittlesTwoMotherOpportunityGivenParentExpectationsDaughterGreatest GiftsMother DaughterHigh ExpectationsTwo Daughters Author:Amy Chua
“I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that.” WayMotherWorryExampleTaughtLosingDaughterMy DaughterTemperHarshYelling Author:Amy Chua
“I'm a proud strict mom and, you know, I'm really proud of the two daughters I've raised. And I'm especially proud of my relationship with them. We're very close. I think we're good friends.” ThinkingKnowsTwoMotherMomProudDaughterRaisedGood FriendStrictTwo Daughters Author:Amy Chua
“There are all these new books out there portraying Asian mothers as scheming, callous, overdriven people indifferent to their kids' true interests. For their part, many Chinese secretly believe that they care more about their children and are willing to sacrifice much more for them than Westerners, who seem perfectly content to let their children turn out badly. I think it's a misunderstanding on both sides. All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. The Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that.” PeopleThinkingWantBelieveChildrenBookIdeasDifferentSeemsCareKidsMotherTurnsParentSidesInterestSacrificeWillingChineseDecentIndifferentBoth SidesMisunderstandingAsianNew BooksPortrayingWesternersCallousDifferent Ideas Author:Amy Chua
