“I think the biggest difference is that I've noticed Western parents seem much more concerned about their children's psyches, their self-esteem, whereas tough immigrant parents assume strength rather than fragility in their children and therefore behave completely differently.” ThinkingChildrenSelfSeemsParentDifferencesSelf EsteemToughConcernedAssumingWesternEsteemBehaveImmigrantsFragilityPsychImmigrant Parents Author:Amy Chua
“The Chinese mom is not the helicopter mom. I would never do their homework for them. It's all about: Take responsibility, don't blame others. Be self-reliant. Never blame the teacher.” SelfResponsibilityTeacherMomBlameChineseTaking ResponsibilityHomeworkHelicoptersSelf Reliant Author:Amy Chua
“The fact is that Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners. Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, "Hey fatty-lose some weight." By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of "health" and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self image.” StillsEndsSelfFactsSeemsKidsMotherParentTermCan DoLosesTalkingIssuesEatingDaughterNegativeWeightWesternHeyChineseTherapyDisorderContrastEating DisorderUnimaginableWesternersTiptoesFatty Book:Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Source: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
“Western parents worry a lot about their children's self-esteem. But as a parent, one of the worst things you can do for your child's self-esteem is to let them give up. On the flip side, there's nothing better for building confidence than learning you can do something you thought you couldn't.” GivingChildrenSelfParentSidesCan DoWorryWorstSelf EsteemBuildingGiving UpWesternEsteemYour ChildrenWorst ThingsFlipCan Do SomethingBuilding Confidence Book:Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Source: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
“Real self-esteem has to be earned. I also believe in virtuous circles, like, nothing is fun until you are good at it. It is great if you can instill in children the ability to not give up, to have a work ethic.” IfsGivingBelieveChildrenRealSelfFunAbilitySelf EsteemGiving UpEthicsCirclesEsteemVirtuousWork EthicNot Giving UpInstillReal Self Author:Amy Chua
“Both of my girls have very high self-esteem because they were both able to master certain things; I should think that's good for their confidence.” ThinkingShouldSelfAbleCertainGirlSelf EsteemMastersEsteemMy GirlHigh Self Esteem Author:Amy Chua
“Instilling a sense of self-discipline and focus when the kids are younger makes it so much easier by the time they get into high school.” SelfKidsSchoolFocusDisciplineEasierHigh SchoolSelf DisciplineSense Of Self Author:Amy Chua
“I see my upbringing as a great success story. By disciplining me, my parents inculcated self-discipline. And by restricting my choices as a child, they gave me so many choices in my life as an adult. Because of what they did then, I get to do the work I love now.” ChildrenSelfStoriesChoicesParentDisciplineAdultsSelf DisciplineUpbringingGreat SuccessSuccess Stories Author:Amy Chua
“I once won a second prize in a history concert. My parents came to the ceremony. Somebody else had won the prize for best all-around student. Afterwards my father said to me, 'Never, ever disgrace me like that again.' When I tell my Western friends, they are aghast. But I adore my father. It didn't knock my self-esteem at all.” SaidSelfFatherParentSelf EsteemStudentsWesternEsteemPrizeConcertsAdoreCeremonyDisgraceAghast Author:Amy Chua
