“A poor self-image is the magnifying glass that can transform a trivial mistake or an imperfection into an overwhelming symbol of personal defeat.” SelfPoorMistakeDefeatGlassesSymbolsImperfectionOverwhelmingMagnifyingMagnifying GlassPoor Self Image Book:Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Source: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
“Can you predict the future with absolute certainty? Your answer must be no. You have two options: You can either decide to accept yourself as an imperfect human being with limited knowledge and realize that you will at times make mistakes, or you can hate yourself for it.” HumansTwoHateRealizingHuman BeingsAnswersMistakeAcceptingAbsolutesCertaintyMaking MistakesImperfectHate YouAccepting YourselfAbsolute CertaintyTwo OptionsLimited Knowledge Author:David D. Burns
“What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in a hurtful way, your guilt won't reverse your blunder in some magical manner. It won't speed your learning processes so as to reduce the chance you'll make the same mistake in the future. Other people won't love and respect you more because you are feeling guilty and putting yourself down in this manner. Nor will your guilt lead to productive living. So what's the point?” PeopleIfsWayFirstsFeelingsProcessChanceMistakeGuiltSpeedGuiltyProductiveReverseLearning ProcessBlundersHurtfulLove And RespectSame MistakesFeeling Guilty Author:David D. Burns
“Guilt is not the best way to remedy your mistakes.” WayMistakeGuiltBest WayRemedy Author:David D. Burns
“The biggest mistake you can make in trying to talk convincingly is to put your highest priority on expressing your ideas and feelings. What most people really want is to be listened to, respected, and understood. The moment people see that they are being understood, they become more motivated to understand your point of view.” PeopleWantTryingIdeasMomentsFeelingsViewsMistakeHighestUnderstoodPoint Of ViewPrioritiesMotivatedBiggest Mistake Author:David D. Burns
“Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can't accept your imperfections, that's their fault.” PeopleIfsMistakeAcceptingAcceptanceFailurePerfectionFaultsMaking MistakesImperfectionGreat MistakesI Make MistakesI Have Made MistakesPeople Make Mistakes Author:David D. Burns
“After all, this is how you learned how to walk. You didn't just jump up from your crib one day and waltz gracefully across the room. You stumbled and fell on your face and got up and tried again. At what age are you suddenly expected to know everything and never make any more mistakes? If you can love and respect yourself in failure, worlds of adventure and new experiences will open up before you, and your fears will vanish.” IfsKnowsWorldLoveAgeFacesWalksRoomsMistakeAdventureOne DayExpectedYour FaceLove And RespectNew ExperiencesRespect YourselfWaltz Author:David D. Burns
