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“The biggest factor that contributes to a vulnerable identity is “all-or-nothing” thinking: I’m either competent or incompetent, good or evil, worthy of love or not. The primary peril of all-or-nothing thinking is that it leaves our identity extremely unstable, making us hypersensitive to feedback. When faced with negative information about ourselves, all-or-nothing thinking gives us only two choices for how to manage that information, both of which cause serious problems When faced with negative information about ourselves, all-or-nothing thinking gives us only two choices for how to manage that information, both of which cause serious problems.”

Thinking Emotions All Or Nothing

Book:Difficult Conversations 10th (tenth) edition Text Only

Source: Difficult Conversations 10th (tenth) edition Text Only

“Learning that you can’t control the other person’s reaction, and that it can be destructive to try, can be incredibly liberating. It not only gives the other person the space to react however they need to, but also takes a huge amount of pressure off you.”

Emotions Fight Conversations Reaction

Book:Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most

Source: Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most

“And when you do ask, not everyone will come through for you, and that will be painful. But many people will. And by trusting them enough to ask, you offer them an extraordinary opportunity to do something important for someone they care about. Then one day, you may have the opportunity to return the favor.”

Helping Emotions Caring For Others Reaction

Book:Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most

Source: Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most