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“ان اكبر تحديات الرجل ترجمة كلام المرأة اذا تحدثت و مساندتها بالتفهم والتأييد المناسبين للموقف و لمشاعرها... و اكبر تحديات المرأة تأويل صمت الرجل و مساندته بتقبله و دعمه بان تترك له المساحة التي يحتاج اليها”

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Book:Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
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“The ancient Greeks were right. The ideal of the chosen life does not square with how we live. We are not authors of our lives; we are not even part-authors of the events that mark us most deeply. Nearly everything that is most important in our lives is unchosen. The time and place we are born, our parents, the first language we speak - these are chance, not choice. It is the casual drift of things that shapes our most fateful relationships. The life of each of us is a chapter of accident. Personal autonomy is the work of our imagination, not the way we live. Yet we have been thrown into a time in which everything is provisional. New technologies alter our lives daily. The traditions of the past cannot be retrieved. At the same time we have little idea of what the future will bring. We are forced to live as if we were free. The cult of choice reflects the fact that we must improvise our lives. That we cannot do otherwise is a mark of our unfreedom. Choice has become a fetish; but the mark of a fetish is that it is unchosen.”

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“Un limite ancor più sostanziale della filosofia epicurea risiede nell'aridità spirituale della vita che raccomanda. Si tratta di una visione nevrastenica della felicità. Come in un sanatorio, non sono consentiti rumori; tutto ciò che rimane è una riposante immobilità. Così la vita è zittita, e gran parte della sua gioia svanisce.”

GattiFilosofia Felina
Book:Feline Philosophy: Cats and the Meaning of Life
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“History is a treadmill turned by rising human numbers. Today GM crops are being marketed as the only means of avoiding mass starvation. They are unlikely to improve the lives of peasant farmers ; but they may well enable them to survive in greater numbers.”

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Book:Perros de paja: Reflexiones sobre los humanos y otros animales
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“كانت أصعب مهمة بالنسبة إلى سوزان هي أن تتدرب على طلب ما تريد، قالت لي "لماذا يجب علي أن أطلب بعد كل ما فعلت من أجله؟!؛ وضحت لها أن تحمليه مسئولية معرفة رغباتها ليس فقط غير واقعي، بل هو سبب جزء كبير من مشكلتها. كانت تحتاج إلى أن تكون مسئولة عن جعل رغباتها تتحقق.”

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“Modern humanism is the faith that through science humankind can know the truth- and to be free. But if Darwin's theory of natural selection is true this is impossible. The human mind serves evolutionary success, not truth. To think otherwise is to resurrect the pre-Darwinian error that humans are different from all other animals. (...) There is no mechanism of selection in the history of ideas akin to that of the natural selection of genetic mutations in evolution.(...) Among humans, the best deceivers are those who deceive themselves: 'we deceive ourselves in order to deceive others better'. A lover who promises eternal fidelity s more likely to be believed if he believes his promise himself; he is no more likely to keep his promise.(...) In a competition for mates, a well-developed capacity for self-deception is an advantage.”

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Book:Perros de paja: Reflexiones sobre los humanos y otros animales
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“We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways - the ways we react and behave when we love someone.”

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Book:Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
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“You may wish to be loving - you may even try with all your might - but your love will never be pure unless you are free from resentment. When we are free from resentment, loving is effortless. When we have to try hard to love, this is generally a sign that we are repressing our resentments.”

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Book:Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: Book of Days
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“The number one way a man can succeed in fulfilling a woman's primary love needs is through communication. By learning to listen to a woman's feelings, a man can effectively shower a woman with caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance.”

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Book:Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
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“Our lives are more like fragmentary dreams than the enactments of conscious selves. We control very little of what we most care about; many of our most fateful decisions are made unbeknownst to ourselves. Yet we insist that mankind can achieve what we cannot: conscious mastery of its existence. This is the creed of those who have given up an irrational belief in God for an irrational faith in mankind.”

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