“Sexual activity, for women, has a history of vulnerability, in a way it simply does not have for men. The mother has to teach thishidden text to her daughter. The mother's warnings, her attempts to halt sexual development in her daughter, are not so much signs of disapproval or envy, but of fear.” MenWayDoeMotherTeachDevelopmentActivityDaughterEnvyVulnerabilityWarningHaltDisapproval Author:Terri E Apter
“Insults from an adolescent daughter are more painful, because they are seen as coming not from a child who lashes out impulsively,who has moments of intense anger and of negative feelings which are not integrated into that large body of responses, impressions and emotions we call 'our feelings for someone,' but instead they are coming from someone who is seen to know what she does.” KnowsChildrenDoeMomentsFeelingsBodyEmotionDaughterNegativeResponsePainfulImpressionIntenseInsultIntegratedLashesNegative Feelings Author:Terri E Apter
“The adolescent does not develop her identity and individuality by moving outside her family. She is not triggered by some magic unconscious dynamic whereby she rejects her family in favour of her peers or of a larger society.... She continues to develop in relation to her parents. Her mother continues to have more influence over her than either her father or her friends.” DoeMovingMotherFatherParentMagicInfluenceIdentityRelationIndividualityUnconsciousRejectsAdolescencePeersFavourMoving Out Author:Terri E Apter
“The myth of independence from the mother is abandoned in mid- life as women learn new routes around the mother--both the mother without and the mother within. A mid-life daughter may reengage with a mother or put new controls on care and set limits to love. But whatever she does, her child's history is never finished.” MayChildrenDoeCareMotherLimitsDaughterIndependenceFinishedMythAbandonedRoutes Author:Terri E Apter
