“Insults from an adolescent daughter are more painful, because they are seen as coming not from a child who lashes out impulsively,who has moments of intense anger and of negative feelings which are not integrated into that large body of responses, impressions and emotions we call 'our feelings for someone,' but instead they are coming from someone who is seen to know what she does.” KnowsChildrenDoeMomentsFeelingsBodyEmotionDaughterNegativeResponsePainfulImpressionIntenseInsultIntegratedLashesNegative Feelings Author:Terri E Apter
“Parents are never forgiven for not giving just the right response at the appropriate moment. Or, rather, there are particular times in the adolescent's or young adult's life, when a certain response is needed, and this need is not met, and the failure to meet this need is forever remembered, and is never forgiven.” NeedsGivingMomentsYoungCertainParentForeverParticularNeededMetsAdultsResponseYoung AdultRememberedAppropriateAdolescenceForgivenNever Forgive Author:Terri E Apter
“One of the main tasks of adolescence is to achieve an identity--not necessarily a knowledge of who we are, but a clarification ofthe range of what we might become, a set of self-references by which we can make sense of our responses, and justify our decisions and goals.” SelfMightGoalDecisionAchieveIdentityTasksResponseMake SenseRangeWho We AreJustifyAdolescenceClarification Author:Terri E Apter
