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“The authoritarian child-rearing style so often found in working-class families stems in part from the fact that parents see aroundthem so many young people whose lives are touched by the pain and delinquency that so often accompanies a life of poverty. Therefore, these parents live in fear for their children's future--fear that they'll lose control, that the children will wind up on the streets or, worse yet, in jail.”

Quote by Lillian B. Rubin

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Lillian B. Rubin

Lillian B. Rubin was a prominent American author in the field of sociology and women's studies, recognized for her influential works that delved into the complexities of gender, family, and society. Born on January 13, 1924, Rubin's career spanned several decades, during which she published numerous books and articles. She was a key figure in the development of feminist sociology, challenging and expanding traditional sociological theories. more

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