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“Het is toch om te huilen wanneer je een Rudy De Leeuw en een Bruno Tobback aan de vooravond van 1 mei hoort verkondigen dat ze volop de strijd aangaan met de fiscale en financiële fraude? Je moet maar durven. Het zijn net de socialisten die de voorbije decennia van fraude plegen een kunst gemaakt hebben via hun ziekmakende vriendjespolitiek, dubieuze investeringen en uitgekiende verduisteringen. Ze zouden beter eerst eens de eigen rangen zuiveren.”

“W moim najntisowym dzieciństwie terapia była czymś dla wybranych, atrybutem lepszego świata, jak jeżdżenie do spa albo mówienie "przepraszam" zamiast "co". Zwykli śmiertelnicy gabinet terapeury widywali w filmach Woddy'ego Allena, ewentualnie w "Miasteczku Twin Peaks". Dla pani, pani Emilko, mamy psycholog szkolną, pogaduszki w kiblu damskim i branie się w garść.”

“Too often the survivor is seen by [himself or] herself and others as "nuts," "crazy," or "weird." Unless her responses are understood within the context of trauma. A traumatic stress reaction consists of *natural* emotions and behaviors in response to a catastrophe, its immediate aftermath, or memories of it. These reactions can occur anytime after the trauma, even decades later. The coping strategies that victims use can be understood only within the context of the abuse of a child. The importance of context was made very clear many years ago when I was visiting the home of a Holocaust survivor. The woman's home was within the city limits of a large metropolitan area. Every time a police or ambulance siren sounded, she became terrified and ran and hid in a closet or under the bed. To put yourself in a closet at the sound of a far-off siren is strange behavior indeed—outside of the context of possibly being sent to a death camp. Within that context, it makes perfect sense. Unless we as therapists have a good grasp of the context of trauma, we run the risk of misunderstanding the symptoms our clients present and, hence, responding inappropriately or in damaging ways.”

“From that mild dissociation, I quickly went into a deeper dissociative state if there was conflict around me, if someone expressed strong emotions, or if something unpredictable happened. Although these difficult situations triggered me, they brought out behavior that helped me do well when the going got tough. I loved solving problems and getting into the thick of things and also had well-developed skills in reading people and anticipating their needs.”