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“It could not have been easy for Mother, an only child, to grow up without a father and with a mother who was remote. Photos of her as a child show her extremely dressed up --Cornie's beautiful little doll. But a daughter, unlike a doll, grows up, and might fall in love with and marry someone her mother does not like; she becomes an individual with her own ideas.”

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“Where did he take you?" "An island." I thought of the archipelago, those dots and dashes of land, a code you could never unlock. "What did it smell like?" she asked. I'd expected a lot of questions, but not this one. As soon as she said it, though, I knew it was the only one that mattered. The only one that would tell you what a place, or your past, was actually like. "Cedar and spruce and fir," I said. "Applewood smoke. Salt water. That metallic smell right before a storm." I was picking up speed. "Salmonberries, huckleberries, spruce on your fingertips. Wet dirt- oh, and morels." I stopped, embarrassed by my volubility. "You did get my genes," she murmured.”

Scents Island Mothers Daughters

Book:The Scent Keeper

Source: The Scent Keeper

“To je bio divalj čovek. Meni je to lakrdijanje. Sva ta priča. Odakle se on pojavio? Kao da niko tada nije brinuo o tome. Neartikulisan. Pisao je polujasno, nebulozno. Kad, počeli su da mu pridaju pažnju. Sreli smo se, ko zna. On je znao, ja sam znao, da ta knjiga ništa ne valja. Bilo je komično, zaluđivali smo budale po gradovima i selima. Nije bili ničega, tekst je patio od nedorečenosti. Neverovatna tlapnja. Izučavao sam imena. Šta možeš kad se zoveš Srđan Srdić. Ne možeš ništa.”

Arrogance Narcissism Cockiness Humorlessness Bloated Self Esteem

Book:Srebrna magla pada

Source: Srebrna magla pada

“Why Is It So Important to Remember? When you were abused, those around you acted as if it weren’t happening. Since no one else acknowledged the abuse, you sometimes felt that it wasn’t real. Because of this you felt confused. You couldn’t trust your own experience and perceptions. Moreover, others’ denial led you to suppress your memories, thus further obscuring the issue. You can end your own denial by remembering. Allowing yourself to remember is a way of confirming in your own mind that you didn’t just imagine it. Because the person who abused you did not acknowledge your pain, you may have also thought that perhaps it wasn’t as bad as you felt it was. In order to acknowledge to yourself that it really was that bad, you need to remember as much detail as possible. Because by denying what happened to you, you are doing to yourself exactly what others have done to you in the past: You are negating and denying yourself.”

Sexual Abuse Rape Sexual Assault Sexual Violence Healing From Abuse Minimizing Healing Abuse Trauma Memory Child Sexual Abuse Survivors Not That Bad Truth About Abuse Cold Sexual Abuse

Book:The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group

Source: The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group

“For girls who've been pressured into sex they didn't want, growing into a woman's body can be terrifying. Anorexia and bulimia can be an attempt to say no, to assert control over their changing bodies. Compulsive overeating is another way.”

Eating Disorders Anorexia Bulimia Effects Of Child Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Survivors Compulsive Eating Over Eating Nine Eating

Book:The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

Source: The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

“We can ill afford to wait until we have worked through all our memories & feelings about incest before learning to rest & play. While it may seem to be a natural impulse to get to the bottom of things & purge ourselves fully, we need to regularly examine the full picture of our lives for balance along the way…Learning to rest & play is an essential part of our healing.”

Healing Abuse Survivors Survivors Incest Healing Insights Healing The Emotional Self Recovery From Abuse Healing Abuse Child Sexual Abuse Survivors

Book:Beyond Survival: A Writing Journey for Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse

Source: Beyond Survival: A Writing Journey for Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse

“People would think that clergy would plead guilty and would do all they could to minimise the stress and pain for the victim. But the Church will hire the best lawyers, barristers and even QCs to defend the abusers ... The victims are cross-examined as if they are on trial. The victims have to recount every detail of the abuse, and then are called liars.' (Sexual Abuse survivor Andrew Collins quoted on p.364)”

Catholic Church Child Sexual Abuse Survivors Cross Examination Cardinal George Pell Complainants

Book:Cardinal: The Rise and Fall of George Pell

Source: Cardinal: The Rise and Fall of George Pell