“Love involves more than just feelings. It is also a way of behaving. When Sandy said, "My parents don't know how to love me," she was saying that they don't know how to behave in loving ways. If you were to ask Sandy's parents, or almost any other toxic parents, if they love their children, most of them would answer emphatically that they do. Yet, sadly, most of their children have always felt unloved. What toxic parents call "love" rarely translates into nourishing, comforting behavior.” IfsKnowsWayChildrenSaidFeelingsAsksFeltParentAnswersHealingKnow HowBehaviorBehaveToxicTeensTranslateComfortingHow To LoveUnlovedSandy Author:Susan Forward
“There is nothing so necessary, but at the same time there is nothing more difficult (I know it by experience) for you young fellows, than to know how to behave yourselves prudently towards those whom you do not like. Your passions are warm, and your heads are light; you hate all those who oppose your views, either of ambition or love; and a rival, in either, is almost a synonymous term for any enemy.” KnowsLightYoungHatePassionDifficultTermViewsEnemyKnow HowLike YouBehaviorAmbitionFellowsWarmBehaveRivalsRivalry Author:Lord Chesterfield
“In North America, people get a sense that something is really wrong in government and in our culture. There is a corruption, not only in politics, but of spirit as well, when people are so quick to be violent with one another. I think everybody would like to be able to find a solution to make things better. We have the desire to reform inside of us, and we get frustrated because we don't know how to change things, even if it comes to our own behavior. Sometimes you get frustrated because you don't know how to stop that thing that you know is either hurtful to yourself or someone else.” PeopleIfsThinkingKnowsWellsSometimesGovernmentAbleAmericaSpiritDesireCultureKnow HowBehaviorSolutionsCorruptionViolentReformFrustratedNorth AmericaHurtful Author:Jennifer Beals
“Some of my favorite photos from the old days are of people who maybe didn't know how to smile. Maybe smiling in photos wasn't an accepted form of behavior back then. But the big eyes and the oversized dolls that people are carrying, and it's something about their hair - the anachronisms of these photos are really what creep me out.” PeopleKnowsBigsEyeFormKnow HowHairBehaviorMy FavoriteAcceptedCreepsDollsOld DaysAnachronismBig Eyes Author:Ransom Riggs
“Parents can ruin children, and sometimes that's a learned behavior. Sometimes you can't blame your parents for it, sometimes you can. I think to me, that's what the whole paradox is, is people that have children that don't even know how to raise them.” PeopleThinkingKnowsChildrenSometimesWholeParentKnow HowBehaviorRaisesBlameRuinsParadoxLearned Behavior Author:Terry McMillan
“I always find you go back to an animal; it will always show you the sort of primal aspects of behavior. You always know how to respond if you choose that.” IfsKnowsShowsAnimalKnow HowBehaviorAspectYou ChoosePrimal Author:Jake Gyllenhaal
“Excuses are the explanations we use for hanging on to behaviors we don't like about ourselves; they are self-defeating behaviors we don't know how to change. InExcuses Begone! I review 18 of the most common excuses people use, such as "I'm too busy, too old, too fat, too scared or it's going to take too long or be too difficult."” PeopleKnowsLongSelfUseDifficultCommonKnow HowBehaviorBusyScaredExcuseFatsExplanationReviewsToo BusyHanging OnSelf Defeating Behavior Author:Wayne Dyer
“A fence can be protective around your family - a familial fence. Then, there are the people who only know how to take, to abuse, to offend and they build fences to keep you out. They don't have time to talk, they don't have kind words, they only talk about themselves. They never give an olive branch or forgiveness - they create a fence because of their personality or behavior and they want to create a barrier to keep people out.” PeopleKnowsWantGivingKindKnow HowPersonalityBehaviorAbuseOur FamilyBranchesBarriersFenceProtectiveOlivesKind WordsOlive Branches Author:Russell Hornsby
“Thoughts are like bullets. They go right to you. You're like the target. When you walk around and you are depressed or there is fatigue or a behavior which you're not used to, that can be someone else's energy on you. You need to know how to clean that off. Also people want to contact loved ones who have passed over.” PeopleKnowsWantNeedsUsedEnergyWalksKnow HowBehaviorCleanContactTargetLoved OnesBulletsFatigue Author:James Van Praagh
“I called. Why wasn't anyone here?"- Elena We were here." Clay said. "Around, anyway. You should have left a message." I did. Two hours ago." - Elena Well that explains it. I've been out, by the gate all day, waiting for you, and you know Jer never checks the machine."- Clayton I didn't know how Clay had known I was coming back today when I hadn't left a message. Nor did I question why he'd spent the entire day waiting at the gate. Clay's behavior couldn't be measured by human standard's of normalcy... or by any standards of normalcy at all. Bitten” KnowsShouldHumansWellsSaidTwoTodayLeftWaitingHoursKnownKnow HowBehaviorMessagesStandardsShould HaveMachinesChecksGatesComing BackClayWaiting For YouNormalcy Author:Kelley Armstrong
“You've got to learn to let go and let your children fall, and fail. If you try to protect them from hurt, and always rush to their side with Band-Aids, they won't learn about life, and what is true, what works, what helps, and what are real consequences of certain kinds of behavior. When they do get hurt, which they will, they won't know how to take care of their grown selves. They won't even know where the aspirin is kept.” IfsKnowsTryingKindChildrenRealSelfHelpingCareCertainFallSidesHurtKnow HowFailingBandProtectLetting GoBehaviorConsequenceTake CareAidsYour ChildrenAspirinBand AidLearn To Let Go Author:Anne Lamott
“The man of character, sensitive to the meaning of what he is doing, will know how to discover the ethical paths in the maze of possible behavior.” KnowsMenCharacterKnow HowPathHe ManBehaviorSensitiveEthicalSensitivityMazesEthical BehaviorDestructive Behavior Author:Earl Warren