“Thomas Gordon, founder of P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training), observed that when children are behaving in a way that interferes with your ability to meet your needs, shouting direct orders to them doesn't work very well. So, he advised sending I messages. That is, a better alternative to, Your room is a disaster area-clean it up this minute, would be something like, I get embarrassed when Mrs. Johnson is visiting and sees your room looking this messy, so I need you to clean it up.” WayNeedsWellsChildrenWould BeOrderParentAbilityRoomsMinutesMessagesTrainingAreasDirectCleanDisasterAlternativesHuman ConditionFoundersInterfereEmbarrassedNeed YouEffectivenessJohnsonMessyVisitingShoutingI Need YouYour Room Author:Ben Yagoda
“I would love to be better at cooking but I hate cleaning up afterwards. I love the process of putting everything together and the chance of getting it right or wrong but it takes ten minutes to eat it and then ages to clean.” AgeTogetherHateProcessChanceMinutesTenI HateCookingCleanCleaningCleaning Up Author:Mark Webber
“I'm glad that that era of stand-up is over, because I think it adversely affected a lot of people who could have been really, really great comedians. Because they unconsciously or subconsciously stifled their wild impulses, and were thinking about the five clean minutes for The Tonight Show, or the 20-minute sitcom pitch as a stand-up act.” PeopleThinkingHas BeensShowsFiveMinutesCleanGladErasImpulseComedianTonightAffectedReally GreatCould Have BeenSitcom Author:Patton Oswalt
“I've had a beard a fair few times and, like most guys, when I shave the beard off I experiment with a few different facial hair styles on the way down to clean shaven. But I've never actually had a moustache for any longer than about 10-15 minutes - during the process of shaving off the beard.” WayDifferentGuyProcessMinutesStyleHairFairsCleanExperimentsBeardFacialShavingMoustacheFacial HairClean Shaven Author:James Magnussen