“The good news: We can start practicing new skills in life anytime we want. Here are some examples of things I'm always practicing: 1. How to say what I mean, as simply as possible, and not make people guess (even if I think they should). 2. How to reach out when I want to shut down. 3. How to just let myself feel sad, lonely, confused, a mess, when I would rather do this thing I always do and check out. 4. How to not be impatient or careless with the feelings of people I love. 5. How to listen and not try to solve someone else's problems. 6. How to take a break when I'm overwhelmed, and promise to return to the conversation a little later.” FeelingsHealingCommunicationSelf CareEmotional RegulationAttachment TheoryEmotional Skills Book:Notes From Your Therapist Source: Notes From Your Therapist
“Feelings are physiological messages, aka interoception--very simply, messages from your brain tracking your body's physical and emotional state. With this feedback on how I was doing, I got better at taking care of myself. And I felt less like I had to control things, because I didn't have to anticipate everything: I could just notice things as they happened.” FeelingsHealingSelf CareNoticingNervous SystemNeed For ControlBiofeedbackInteroception Book:Notes From Your Therapist Source: Notes From Your Therapist
“Feelings are just your body talking to you about how you're doing in the moment. Even if you've gotten used to ignoring them, they're still talking to you. Tune in to your breathing, and then your body, and then your emotions. It's a little thing that pays off big.” FeelingsHealingSelf CareNervous SystemBiofeedbackInteroception Book:Notes From Your Therapist Source: Notes From Your Therapist
“- Saying you need more time - Asking for help when you're overwhelmed by a "simple" task - Taking a break to process strong feelings - Asking not to be rushed... These are just emotional self-care skills you might not have been taught--or allowed--growing up. But you can teach yourself now if you want.” HealingSelf CareEmotional Skills Book:Notes From Your Therapist Source: Notes From Your Therapist