“Because of the consequences of trying to be heard as a child, many adults are unable to take the risk of telling as adults. The fear of the consequences is almost debilitating. The abusers and controllers know that; they rely on it.” FearGrowing UpChild AbuseAdulthoodConsequencesTellingBeing HeardOvercoming Abuse Book:Emerging from Broken: The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing Source: Emerging from Broken: The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
“We have laws about human rights in place for a reason and even if those laws are so often not enforced BY the law, these laws teach us our rights as human beings. I was shocked when I first discovered them, but at the same time I found them empowering; especially the ones about emotional abuse and neglect. Always remember that we are healing from the damage and that before the damage can be overcome, it has to be acknowledged. Acceptance in the context of accepting what happened is not the same thing as acceptance of the person who did it. Accepting the way a person “is” does not apply when abuse or mistreatment is involved. There is a big difference in accepting someone’s “faults”, verses accepting abusive treatment.” AcceptanceAbuseHuman RightsChild AbuseHealing InsightsMaltreatmentChild MaltreatmentHuman Rights LawChild Abuse Awareness Author:Darlene Ouimet
“Attitudes and ignorance” about (any type of) abuse can be passed down through the generations. It is important to our healing that we sort out the belief systems we adopt; belief systems that were taught to us and because they are so full of lies, they lead to all kinds of depressions, addictions and other struggles while we try to cope with the manifestations of the problems instead of the roots of the problems.” DepressionAddictionBelief SystemsHealing InsightsDysfunctional FamilyDysfunctional FamiliesBelief SystemAbuse RecoveryFamily SecretsChild Abuse SurvivorsFamily SystemsAbusive FamiliesAddiction Recevoery Author:Darlene Ouimet
“When I thought about how much time I had already put into a relationship without reciprocation from the other person and how I spent YEARS recovering and trying to recover from the damage of her verbal, emotional and physical abuse and neglect, I realized that I was the only one trying and I wasn’t the problem! That understanding changed everything!” Healing InsightsDysfunctional FamilyAbusive RelationshipsAbusive MotherUnreciprocated Love Author:Darlene Ouimet
“Everyday I realize more and more that if the world is going to change at all, it is going to change through the healing of the victims. Abusers run the show, they insist on and instigate cover ups, they misuse their power, teach things falsely out of the desire to control but as the victims heal and get stronger, the abusers will not be able to hide behind the fog that they create.” HealingChange The WorldCover UpsAbusersDisinformationSmoke And MirrorsMisuse Of PowerVictims Of AbuseFalse TeachingFalse Teachers Author:Darlene Ouimet
“My sister only has one side of the story but she is sure that she knows the whole story because that is how the dysfunctional system works. We don’t question everyone or even consider that there may be another side to the story but instead automatically believe the one who has the most power in the relationship.” Dysfunctional FamilyDysfunctional FamiliesAbusive ParentsDysfunctional RelationshipAbusive ParentPower ImbalanceDrama Triangle Author:Darlene Ouimet
“We don't go back to wallow, we go back to undo the lies that are back there that are holding its captive from living a wondrous and full life.” TraumaPtsdAbuse SurvivorsTraumatizedTrauma SurvivorsWallowGet Over ItRevisiting The Past Author:Darlene Ouimet
“People may not realize the damage that they are doing by placing the blame on the victim ~ but that doesn't lessen the damage that they cause by doing it.” BlameSexual AbuseRapeAbuse SurvivorsSexual AssaultSurvivorsHealing InsightsSurvivors Of AbuseVictim BlamingRape SurvivorBlame The Victim Author:Darlene Ouimet
“About the expression "Hurt people, hurt people".. Hurt people are not going to stop HURTING other people until they receive the memo that it is WRONG, (or if there are actual consequences for their behaviour.) Feeling sorry for them and understanding where they 'came from' is not helping to stop the cycle of abuse.” BoundariesEmotional AbuseAbuse SurvivorsAbusive ParentsBoundaries QuotesCycle Of AbuseRevictimizationHurt People Hurt PeopleHurt People Author:Darlene Ouimet