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“الشخص الذي يقع في الحب ويدخل في نعمة الذوبان والإنصهار مع الآخر تنمحق ذاته المتفردة أو " الأنا " وتنصهر مع الآخر ليصبحا كيانا واحدا أو " نحن ". وهكذا يتخلص المرء من قلقه ولكنه يفقد نفسه وذاته إلى الأبد.”

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