“I guess I'm just quite observant and I pay attention to a lot of things. Human behavior really fascinates me.” HumansPayAttentionBehaviorPay AttentionHuman BehaviorObservant Author:Ellie Goulding
“Indeed, girls can be so in need of social approval that they confuse harassment for acceptance--thinking that any attention is better than none. Since many girls as well as boys buy the idea that sexual aggression and exploitation is normal masculine behavior, it may not even occur to them to demand to be treated as equals.” ThinkingNeedsWellsMayIdeasGirlSocialAttentionBoysAcceptanceDemandBehaviorNormalTreatedApprovalAggressionExploitationMasculineHarassment Author:Leora Tanenbaum
“You are the creator of your own reality, and so you are not in jeopardy. You do not need to control the behavior of others in order for you to thrive. Your attention to things that you think they do that keeps you from your thriving is, in fact, what keeps you from your thriving... It is not what they do to you; it's what you do to you in fear of what you think that they will do to you.” ThinkingNeedsFactsRealityOrderAttentionBehaviorCreatorThriveJeopardy Author:Esther Hicks
“Trust is rebuilt by focusing not on what the other person did or did not do but on critiquing one's own behavior, improving one's trustworthiness, and focusing attention not on words and promises but on actions, attitudes, and ways of being.” WayPersonsActionAttentionAttitudeIntegrityPromiseBehaviorImprovingTrustworthiness Author:Kenneth Cloke
“A concern with parenting...must direct attention beyond behavior. This is because parenting is not simply a set of behaviors, but participation in an interpersonal, diffuse, affective relationship. Parenting is an eminently psychological role in a way that many other roles and activities are not.” WayAttentionRolesActivityBehaviorConcernDirectPsychologicalParticipationInterpersonal Author:Nancy Chodorow
“There's only one thing worse than not paying attention to girls in gangs - it's paying attention to girls in gangs. The public reaction to girls and women who engage in nontraditional behavior - the hysteria that often surrounds girls in these groups - is almost as interesting as the behavior itself.” GirlInterestingAttentionOne ThingGroupsBehaviorReactionsPay AttentionSurroundGangHysteria Author:Meda Chesney-Lind
“So, what's a nudge? A nudge is some small feature of the environment that attracts our attention and alters our behavior.” AttentionEnvironmentBehaviorFeaturesNudge Author:Richard Thaler
“To design an easy-to-use interface, pay attention to what users do, not what they say. Self-reported claims are unreliable, as are user speculations about future behavior.” SelfUseEasyPayAttentionDesignBehaviorClaimsPay AttentionUsersSpeculationUnreliableInterfaces Author:Jakob Nielsen
“Be conscious of yourself, watch your mind, give it your full attention. Don't look for quick results; there may be none within your noticing. Unknown to you, your psyche will undergo a change; there will be more clarity in your thinking, charity in your feeling, purity in your behavior. You need not aim at these - you will witness the change all the same. For, what you are now is the result of inattention and what you become will be the fruit of attention.” ThinkingNeedsGivingMindLooksMayFeelingsResultsAttentionWatchesBehaviorConsciousAimCharityFruitClarityWitnessPurityNoticingInattention Author:Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
“Dogs seek attention from you. But by paying them that attention when they want it, you're reinforcing the bad or hyperactive or anxious behavior that you're trying to avoid. Practice - no touch, no talk, no eye contact - and see how you fare. You might be surprised at how quickly the dog settles down and looks to you as his pack leader for direction.” WantTryingLooksMightEyeAttentionLeaderPracticeDogBehaviorDown AndContactSettlingAnxiousPacksSettling DownEye Contact Author:Cesar Millan
“Surrendered people understand that they can’t always change a situation, especially when the door is shut. They don’t try to force it open. Instead, they pay attention to their own behavior, look at the situation at hand, and find a new, different, and creative way to get beyond the obstacles. They are comfortable with uncertainty.” PeopleWayTryingLooksDifferentHandsForcePayAttentionSituationCreativeDoorsBehaviorComfortableObstaclesPay AttentionUncertainty Author:Judith Orloff
“By making conscious choices in our behavior and where we focus our attention, we can transform our experience of our body, decrease our biological age, and tap into our inner reservoirs of unbounded energy, creativity, and love.” BodyAgeChoicesEnergyAttentionCreativityFocusBehaviorConsciousAnd LoveDecreaseReservoirs Author:Deepak Chopra
“Women are brought up to think it's acceptable to pay attention to their faces. Men translate their discomfort into their behavior.” ThinkingMenFacesPayAttentionBehaviorPay AttentionAcceptableTranslateDiscomfort Author:Michelle Pfeiffer
“If we allow the United States to set the precedent that national borders don't matter when it comes to the protection of people's information, other countries are watching. They're paying attention to our examples and what is normative behavior in terms of dealing with digital information.” PeopleIfsCountryMatterStatesTermUnitedAttentionUnited StatesInformationExampleBehaviorProtectionPay AttentionBordersDigitalOther CountriesPrecedentNational Borders Author:Edward Snowden
“I always knew I could hold people's attention and make them laugh every 30 or 40 seconds, and I got approval and attention for that, so the behavior was reinforced. Later, that became an important skill on the street corner.” PeopleImportantAttentionLaughingStreetsSkillsBehaviorCornersSecondsApprovalStreet Corners Author:George Carlin
“Being a control freak makes us tense, stressed out, and unpleasant to be with. Surrendered people understand that they can't always change a situation, especially when the door is shut. They don't try to force it open. Instead, they pay attention to their own behavior, look at the situation at hand, and find a new, different, and creative way to get beyond the obstacles.” PeopleTryingDifferentAttentionSituationCreativeBehaviorObstaclesPay AttentionFreakStressedControl FreakStressed Out Author:Judith Orloff
“To become "memorable" do things that are somewhat unexpected. Dress, or talk, in ways that draw attention. And mostly, don't follow all the "rule for behavior" so closely.” AttentionBehaviorMemorableUnexpected Author:Jeffrey Pfeffer
“It is hard to get animals which normally pay little attention to each other to do things together. One can teach dolphins to jump simultaneously out of the water precisely because they show similar behavior spontaneously, but try to make two domestic cats jump together and you will fail.” TryingLittlesTwoHardShowsTogetherWaterAnimalPayAttentionTeachFailingBehaviorCatDolphins Author:Frans de Waal