“Forget about sex. Just play first. Dance, sing, read to each other, breathe together - communicate. Don't count on sex to be the door to intimacy. It's the other way around: first develop intimacy skills. Then make love to enjoy them.” WayFirstsPlayTogetherSexEnjoyForgetDoorsSkillsCommunicateBreatheIntimacyMaking Love Author:Margot Anand
“Delirious as it can be, sex is only one kind of intimacy, and yet has become the cultural catchment area for all kinds of needs because our understanding of intimacy is so poor. Brutal work schedules, related geographic isolation, and the concomitant fracturing of families has meant that there is little time for intimacy, and even less to teach the necessary skills. But intimacy, the axis of romance, is slow, based on the sharing of a life rather than show. In terms of intimacy, folding laundry together or sharing the feeding of a child can have more impact than the most extravagant bouquet.” NeedsKindChildrenLittlesShowsTogetherRomanceSexUnderstandingTermPoorTeachSkillsAreasImpactAll KindsIntimacyRelatedIsolationBrutalSchedulesFeedingLittle TimeLaundryExtravagantAxesBouquetsFoldingDelirious Author:Antonella Gambotto-Burke
“Should or can there be a single standard of behavior for both sexes? Is there such a thing as a biologically rooted female culture that should remain separate from male culture, partly because it is different than or superior to male culture? Women must convert their love for and reliance on strength and skill in others to a love for all manner of strength and skill in themselves.” ShouldDifferentCultureSexSkillsBehaviorStandardsFemaleMalesSuperiorsRootedReliance Author:Phyllis Chesler
“Success to me is self-determined, the life I live today, to come from a kid strung out on angel dust, homeless, at some points sleeping in the street. No money, not knowing where the next meal was coming from. No sex, no relationships, people that didn't love me, didn't care about me, to where I am today... that's successful. When I signed my record deal I always wanted to be respected by my peers for my ability and my skill level.” PeopleSelfCareKidsTodayWantedNextSexSleepAbilityLevelsDealsKnowingSuccessfulRecordsStreetsSkillsAngelDeterminedDustMealsNot KnowingPeersHomelessNo MoneyLive For TodaySleeping In Author:Joe Budden
“In most cases an act of unwelcome sex is no more bother than being vaccinated, so there's no point going on about it as if it werea fate worse than death. With skill and good manners you can avoid having to make the sacrifice, but should you find yourself in a compromising situation largely of your own making, you should stop defending your virtue and start worrying about your maturity. It will give you something to think about while the savage pumper bangs away.” IfsThinkingGivingShouldSexSituationCasesWorryVirtueFateSacrificeSkillsAbuseCompromiseMannersBotherMaturityFinding YourselfGood ManSavagesBangsNo PointGood MannersUnwelcome Author:Quentin Crisp
“No skill, no special aptitude, no vividness of imagination or precision of thinking would go unrecognized because the child who possessed it was of one sex rather than the other. No child would be relentlessly shaped to one pattern of behavior, but instead there should be many patterns, in a world that had learned to allow to each individual the pattern which was most congenial to his gifts.” ThinkingWorldShouldChildrenWould BeIndividualSexImaginationSpecialSkillsBehaviorPatternsPossessedPrecisionVividness Author:Margaret Mead
“I'm just curious, who's more fit to raise a child? A loving committed same-sex couple or an unmarried 15-year-old with no income and really no skills to parent?” YearsChildrenSexParentCoupleFitSkillsRaisesCommittedIncomeCuriousUnmarried Author:Ellen Barkin