“Eleanor Roosevelt started off almost every early article she wrote, starting with, "My mother was the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen." And I think her life was a constant and continual and lifelong contrast with her mother.” ThinkingBeautifulMotherConstantStartingArticlesContrastBeautiful WomenLifelongEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Eleanor Roosevelt never thought that she was attractive. She never thought that she was really sufficiently appealing. And I think her whole life was a response to her effort to get her mother to pay attention to her, to love her, and to love her as much as she loved her brothers.” ThinkingWholeMotherEffortPayAttentionBrotherResponseWhole LifePay AttentionAttractiveEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“She writes that one of the moments that she felt most useful was when her mother had a headache, and she would stroke her head and rub her forehead. And I think Eleanor Roosevelt's entire life was dedicated to two things: (one) making it better for all people, people in trouble and in need, like her family.” PeopleThinkingNeedsWritingTwoMomentsMotherFeltTroubleTwo ThingsDedicatedStrokesForeheadsHeadacheLike HerEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I mean, her father was an alcoholic, and her mother was the suffering wife of a man who she could never predict what he would do, where he would be, who he would be. And it's sort of interesting because Eleanor Roosevelt never writes about her mother's agony. She only writes about her father's agony. But her whole life is dedicated to making it better for people in the kind of need and pain and anguish that her mother was in.” PeopleMenNeedsWritingKindMeanWholeWould BePainLife IsMotherSufferingFatherInterestingWifeWhole LifeDedicatedAgonyAnguishAlcoholicsEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Her mother died at the age of 29, essentially turning her face to the wall and deciding to die. And so we can only imagine the agony she felt. And Eleanor Roosevelt really wanted to make her mother happier, and - and to make her live, you know, make her want to live. And there's something about, you know, when your mother dies, this sense of abandonment. I think Eleanor Roosevelt had a lifelong fear of abandonment and sense of abandonment after her parents' death.” ThinkingKnowsWantAgeWantedFacesMotherDiesFeltParentImagineWallDiedAgonyAbandonmentLifelongEleanorMother Died Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think that, very often there's a pain that's just too painful to touch. You'll break apart. And I think her mother's death and disappearance and abandonment was something she just never could deal with. Eleanor Roosevelt, when she's really very unwell in 1936, she takes to her bed. She has a mysterious flu.” ThinkingPainMotherDealsBreakBedPainfulMysteriousAbandonmentFluDisappearanceEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And during the campaign of 1936, she writes that she and her brother would always rather be out doing things when they're sick, rather than take to their beds. And I think Eleanor Roosevelt always responded to pain by doing more, by doing something, by being active. And I think she just couldn't bear to look at her childhood grief. And she didn't.” ThinkingWritingLooksPainGriefChildhoodBrotherBearsBedSickActiveCampaignsEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Her [Eleanor Roosevelt] father was the love of her life. Her father always made her feel wanted, made her feel loved, where her mother made her feel, you know, unloved, judged harshly, never up to par. And she was her father's favorite, and her mother's unfavorite. So her father was the man that she went to for comfort in her imaginings.” KnowsMenFeelsMadeWantedMotherFatherHe ManComfortJudgedEleanorUnloved Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And in her [Eleanor Roosevelt] letters, she writes the most, you know, fanciful letters: when we are together, and when we are reunited, and you know, I will be your surrogate wife. Of course she doesn't use that word, but I will be the mother to my brothers, and I will be your primary love.” KnowsWritingUseTogetherMotherCoursesWifeBrotherLettersPrimariesMy BrotherEleanorSurrogatesReunited Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think Eleanor Roosevelt always had a most incredible comfort writing letters. I mean, she was in the habit of writing letters. And that's where she allowed her fantasies to flourish. That's where she allowed her emotions to really evolve. And that's where she allowed herself to express herself really fully, and sometimes whimsically, very often romantically. And it really starts with her letters to her father, who is lifelong her primary love.” ThinkingWritingMeanSometimesFatherEmotionFantasyHabitComfortLettersIncrediblesPrimariesEvolveLifelongEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Well, the reality of her father was that he was a very diseased alcoholic, who died at the age of 34. And one always has to pause to wonder how much you have to drink to die at 34. And he was a really tragic father. I mean, he was absolutely unreliable. He was absolutely involved with various people. He had outside families, outside children, outside wives. He made his wife's life miserable. And she [Eleanor Roosevelt]ignored all of his faults and retained this sense of him as the perfect father.” PeopleWellsMeanChildrenMadeRealityAgeDiesFatherPerfectWonderWifeInvolvedDrinkDiedFaultsVariousMiserableTragicPausesIgnoredAlcoholicsUnreliableEleanorDiseasedPerfect Father Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“It's interesting to me that really one of the first things she [Eleanor Roosevelt]did as First Lady was to collect her father's letters and publish a book called The Letters of My Father, essentially, hunting big game, The Letters of Elliott Roosevelt. And it really was an act of redemption, really one of her first acts of redemption as she entered the White House. She was going to redeem her father's honor. And publishing his letters, reconnecting with her childhood really fortified her to go on into the difficult White House years.” YearsFirstsBookBigsFatherGamesHouseDifficultWhiteInterestingChildhoodGoes OnHonorLettersRedemptionWhite HouseHuntingPublishingPublishFirst LadyEleanorReconnecting Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Well, when Eleanor Roosevelt's mother dies, she goes to live with her Grandmother Hall. And her Grandmother Hall is in mourning. She's in widow's weeds. She's in her 50s, but appears very old. And she's exhausted from raising rather out-of-control children. Her favorite daughter, Anna, has died (Eleanor's mother), and she has living at home two other sons, Vallie and Eddie. And they are incredible sportsmen, incredible drinkers, out-of-control alcoholics.” WellsChildrenTwoHomeMotherDiesSonDaughterDiedIncrediblesMourningGrandmotherHallsWeedExhaustedAlcoholicsWidowsAnnaDrinkersEleanorSportsman Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And Grandmother Hall really imagines that she can raise Eleanor and her two brothers differently than these children were raised. And if she is very strict and everything is very regimented and ordered and disciplined, that they will become the perfect children who her own children did not become.” IfsChildrenTwoPerfectImagineBrotherRaisesRaisedGrandmotherHallsImagine ThatStrictEleanorTwo BrothersPerfect Child Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“In one way, it is this sense of order and also love that, I think, really saved Eleanor Roosevelt's life. And in her own writing, she's very warm about her grandmother, even though, if you look at contemporary accounts, they're accounts of horror at the Dickensian scene that Tivoli represents: bleak and drear and dark and unhappy. But Eleanor Roosevelt in her own writings is not very unhappy about Tivoli.” IfsThinkingWayWritingLooksOrderDarkHorrorSceneAccountsWarmSavedUnhappyContemporaryOne WayGrandmotherBleakEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think her Grandmother Hall gave her a great sense of family love, and reassurance. Her grandmother did love her, like her father, unconditionally. And despite the order and the discipline - and home at certain hours and out at certain hours and reading at certain hours - there was a surprising amount of freedom. Eleanor Roosevelt talks about how the happiest moments of her days were when she would take a book out of the library, which wasn't censored.” ThinkingBookMomentsHomeCertainOrderReadingFatherHoursAmountDisciplineLibraryDespiteGrandmotherHallsSurprisingFamily LoveLike HerReassuranceEleanorCensored Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And her [Eleanor Roosevelt] Grandmother Hall provided her really with a quite wonderful education, and a freedom that, within the framework of Tivoli (which is a framework of discipline and order) is also a very encouraging and loving one.” OrderWonderfulDisciplineGrandmotherHallsFrameworkEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think Eleanor Roosevelt's so popular at Allenswood because it's the first time she is, number one, free. But it's the first time somebody really recognizes her own leadership abilities and her own scholarly abilities.” ThinkingFirstsAbilityNumbersFirst TimeEleanorScholarly Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Eleanor Roosevelt loved to write. She was a wonderful child writer. I mean, she wrote beautiful essays and stories as a child. And Marie Souvestre really appreciated Eleanor Roosevelt's talents and encouraged her talents. Also, she spoke perfect French. She grew up speaking French. She's now at a french-speaking school where, you know, girls are coming from all over the world. Not everybody speaks French.” KnowsWorldWritingMeanChildrenStoriesSchoolBeautifulGirlSpeakPerfectWonderfulTalentGrewGrew UpSpokesEssaysAppreciatedEleanorMarieSpeaks FrenchWonderful ChildrenSpeaking French Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Eleanor Roosevelt's very helpful to a lot of children who cannot speak French, who do not write well. And Marie Souvestre is fierce. She tears up students' papers that are not, you know, perfect. And Eleanor Roosevelt goes around, again, being incredibly helpful to children in need, children in trouble. And her best friends are the naughtiest girls who are in trouble. And she is a leader. And she is encouraged to be a leader. And everybody falls in love with her. She's a star.” KnowsNeedsWritingWellsChildrenFallGirlSpeakStarsPerfectLeaderTroubleStudentsTearsPaperFalling In LoveHelpfulFiercePapersEleanorMarieSpeaks French Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And she [Eleanor Roosevelt]loves being a star. And she loves being a teacher and a leader and a mentor and a big friend. Also, she's tall. She's one of the tallest girls in the school. And she's an athlete. And she writes many years later, at the end of her life, she writes that the happiest day, the happiest single day of her life was the day that she made the first team at field hockey. And I have to say, as a biographer, that's the most important fact. I” WritingYearsFirstsMadeImportantEndsFactsBigsSchoolGirlStarsLove IsLeaderTeacherTeamFieldsAthleteTallHockeyMentorEleanorBeing A TeacherBiographersField Hockey Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I mean, if you pause over what it means at the age of 76 that Eleanor Roosevelt wrote, the happiest single day of her life was the day she made the first team at field hockey. Field hockey is a team sport. Field hockey is a knockabout - I mean, picture Allenswood, the swamps of north London. It's a messy sport. So she really enjoyed playing this rough-and-tumble sport in the mud of Allenswood, a team sport. And she was very competitive. And she loved being competitive, and she loved to win. And that, I think, was all of the things that Allenswood enabled.” IfsThinkingFirstsMeanMadeAgeWinningSportsTeamFieldsLondonEnjoyedRoughHockeyPausesMudMessySwampsEleanorSports TeamField Hockey Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think FDR was very dashing and charming and debonair, and probably reminded her of her father. A great bon-vivant. He loved to party. He loved to sing. He loved to have fun. And he wrote beautiful letters, just as her father did, which - alas and alack - Eleanor Roosevelt destroyed. But she refers to his beautiful letters. And she was charmed by him.” ThinkingBeautifulFatherFunPartyLettersDestroyedHaving FunCharmingAlasEleanorCharmedDashingDebonair Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Well, in Washington, this is a very hard time for Eleanor and Franklin. This is when Lucy Mercer first appears. And Lucy Mercer is Eleanor Roosevelt's own secretary. Very beautiful young woman, not unlike Eleanor Roosevelt: tall, blonde, thick haired. And FDR is having an affair with her, which Eleanor Roosevelt finds out when FDR returns from Europe in 1918 with the famous flu of 1918.” FirstsWellsHardBeautifulYoungReturnEuropeAffairHard TimesTallThickSecretaryYoung WomenFluBlondeFranklinVery BeautifulLucyEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And if you look at pictures of Eleanor between 1918 and 1921, she becomes anorexic. She really loses a tremendous amount of weight. That's when her teeth really go bad. It's a terrible, terrible time for her. And she has five children, ranging in age from three to 10. It's an emotionally terrible ordeal.” IfsLooksChildrenAgeThreeLosesFiveAmountTerribleWeightTeethEleanorOrdealsAnorexicsTerrible Times Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“But it's also the beginning of another level of liberation for her]Eleanor Roosevelt], because when she returns to New York, she gets very involved in a new level of politics. She meets Esther Lape and Elizabeth Read, and becomes very involved in the women's movement, and then in the peace movement. And ironically, the years of her greatest despair become also the years of her great liberation.” YearsLevelsNew YorkMovementReturnInvolvedDespairLiberationEleanorEsther Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“It's right around this time that her Grandmother Hall dies. And Eleanor Roosevelt is responsible for making all the funeral arrangements. And there are a couple of things that she really understands, as she contemplates her grandmother's life and makes the funeral arrangements. One, she's really talented, an organizational woman. She knows how to do things. She begins to compare her life to her grandmother's life. And it's very clear to her that being a devoted wife and a devoted mother is not enough.” KnowsEnoughMotherDiesKnow HowClearWifeCoupleResponsibleCompareGrandmotherHallsFuneralContemplatingDevotedArrangementsEleanorOrganizational Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“She [Eleanor Roosevelt]wants a life of her own. Her grandmother could have been a painter. Her grandmother could have done so much more than she did with her life. And Eleanor Roosevelt decides she is going to do everything possible with her life. She's going to live a full life.” WantHas BeensDonePainterGrandmotherCould Have BeenEleanorFull Life Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“A lot of people say that Eleanor Roosevelt wasn't a good mother. And there are two pieces to that story. One is, when they were very young, she was not a good mother. She was an unhappy mother. She was an unhappy wife. She had never known what it was to be a good mother. She didn't have a good mother of her own. And so there's a kind of parenting that doesn't happen.” PeopleKindTwoStoriesHappensYoungMotherKnownPiecesWifeUnhappyEleanorGood Mother Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And in the same way, FDR's not much of a father. Although the children in all their memoirs really talk about what a fun-loving guy Dad was, and how brooding and unhappy Mom was. The children sort of blame it all on the mother. Well, this is kind of standard and typical, and aggrieved Eleanor Roosevelt that she was not a happier mother. She wanted to be a happier mother. And I must say, she was a happier grandmother.” WayWellsKindChildrenWantedMotherGuyFatherFunMomDadStandardsBlameUnhappyMemoirGrandmotherTypicalBroodingEleanorFun Loving Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I mean, in the campaign of '24 and in '28 and '32, you know, Eleanor Roosevelt insists that women have equal floor space. And this is a great victory over time. Then she wants women represented in equal numbers as men. And she wants the women to name the delegates. And the men want to name the delegates. Well, Eleanor is absolutely furious. And because they don't want her to walk away in 1924, she wins. And this is a great political victory. She has floor space equal to the men, and she has the right to name the women.” KnowsMenWantWellsMeanPoliticalWinningNamesSpaceWalksNumbersHe ManVictoryEqualCampaignsFuriousDelegatesEleanorGreat VictoryGreat PoliticalPolitical Victory Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“So in 1924, Eleanor Roosevelt really gets a sense of what the limits of the battle and the contours of the battle are going to be. The men are contemptuous of the women, and the women really need to organize. She writes an article which becomes an article she writes in different ways over and over and over again: Women need to organize. They need to create their own bosses. They need to have support networks and gangs so that they are a force.” MenWayNeedsWritingDifferentForceSupportHe ManBattleLimitsDifferent WaysBossArticlesOrganizeGangEleanorContemptuous Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Politics is not an isolated, individualist adventure. Women really need to emerge as a power to be the countervailing power to the men. And Eleanor Roosevelt's really the dynamo and the spearhead of that effort.” MenNeedsEffortHe ManAdventureIsolatedEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think that Hick was in love with Eleanor, and Eleanor was in love with Hick. I think it's very important to look at the letters that are in my book, because unlike some of the recent published letters, I have both the personal and the political. And their relationship is about ardor. It's about fun. And it's also about politics.” ThinkingLooksImportantBookPoliticalFunLettersEleanorArdorHicks Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“She really is a completely different First Lady. Eleanor Roosevelt was not going to suffer and withdraw in the White House. And I think he's a very different President. He does not want his wife to suffer and withdraw in the White House. And they really are partners. They're partners in a big house where there are two separate courts, and they both know they have two separate courts. But these are courts that are allied in purpose, united in vision.” ThinkingKnowsWantFirstsDoeTwoDifferentBigsPurposeSufferingHousePresidentWhiteUnitedVisionWifeCourtPartnersWhite HouseFirst LadyEleanorBig Houses Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Eleanor Roosevelt doesn't ever do anything that is going to hurt her husband. She tries things out on him. She gets permission to do things. The amazing thing, I think, historically, is that he says, "Go do it. If you can make this happen, I'll follow you."” IfsThinkingTryingHappensHurtHusbandPermissionAmazing ThingsEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“And you can really see in all of these issues that are priorities for Eleanor Roosevelt, where the compromises are painful, the compromises are hard, and the difficulties between them really begin to loom very large by 1936, by 1938.” HardIssuesDifficultyPainfulPrioritiesCompromiseEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“Eleanor Roosevelt fights for an anti-lynch law with the NAACP, with Walter White and Mary McLeod Bethune. And she begs FDR to say one word, say one word to prevent a filibuster or to end a filibuster. From '34 to '35 to '36 to '37 to '38, it comes up again and again, and FDR doesn't say one word. And the correspondence between them that we have, I mean, she says, "I cannot believe you're not going to say one word." And she writes to Walter White, "I've asked FDR to say one word. Perhaps he will." But he doesn't. And these become very bitter disagreements.” WritingBelieveMeanEndsLawFightingWhiteCome UpBitterMaryAgain And AgainOne WordDisagreementCorrespondenceEleanorNaacpFilibusterWalter White Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“On international relations, Eleanor Roosevelt really takes a great shocking leadership position on the World Court. In fact, it amuses me. The very first entry in her FBI file begins in 1924, when Eleanor Roosevelt supports American's entrance into the World Court. And the World Court comes up again and again - '33, '35. In 1935, Eleanor Roosevelt goes on the air; she writes columns; she broadcast three, four times to say the US must join the World Court.” WorldWritingFirstsFactsThreeSupportFourAirPositionGoes OnRelationCourtInternationalCome UpAgain And AgainShockingFilesFbiColumnsInternational RelationsEntryEntrancesEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“By 1938, Eleanor Roosevelt was so angry at FDR's policies, she writes a book called This Troubled World. And it is actually a point-by-point rebuttal of her husband's foreign policy. We need collective security. We need a World Court. We need something like the League of Nations. We need to work together to fight fascism. We need embargoes against aggressor nations, and we need to name aggressor nations. All of which is a direct contradiction of FDR's policies.” WorldNeedsWritingBookTogetherFightingNamesNationsSecurityPolicyHusbandDirectAngryCourtLeagueContradictionCollectivesWorking TogetherFascismForeign PolicyEleanorAggressorsLeague Of NationsRebuttalCollective Security Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“So she [Eleanor Roosevelt] is an amazing First Lady. What other First Lady in U.S. history has ever written a book to criticize her husband's policies?” FirstsBookWrittenPolicyHusbandCriticizeFirst LadyEleanor Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“One of the things for me, as a biographer, that is so significant is for Eleanor Roosevelt - the child who never had a home of her own, who lives in her grandmother's home and then goes to school and then gets married and lives in her mother-in-law's homes, and then in public housing (like the White House and the State House) - housing becomes for Eleanor Roosevelt the most important issue.” ChildrenImportantStatesHomeSchoolLawMotherHouseWhiteIssuesMarriedSignificantGrandmotherWhite HouseHousingIn-lawsEleanorImportant IssuesMother In LawBiographersPublic Housing Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
“I think that Eleanor Roosevelt really learned about the limits of power and influence from Arthurdale. She could not make some things happen. And she particularly learned that she could not, just because she was nominally in charge, she could not change people's hearts and minds; that a very long process of education would result before race was on the national agenda. And it really did move her into the racial justice arena with both feet. She came out fighting.” PeopleThinkingMindHeartLongHappensMovingFightingProcessJusticeResultsRaceFeetInfluenceLimitsThings HappenAgendasHeart And MindArenaEleanorRacial Justice Author:Blanche Wiesen Cook
