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“Men are preoccupied with a woman's youth. Men want wives who are pretty, attractive, beautiful, gorgeous, comely, lovely, ravishing, and glamorous. Men seek attractive women as mates not simply for their reproductive value but also as signals of status to same sex competitors and to other potential mates. Although most men place a premium on beauty, it is clear that not all men succeed in satisfying their desires. Men who lack the status and resources that women want, for example, generally have the most difficult time attracting good looking young women and must settle for less than their ideal. Indeed, a man's occupational status seems to be the best predictor of the attractiveness of the woman he marries. Men who are in a position to get what they want often partners up with a young, attractive woman.”

“Which men are most likely to be controlling? Those who are lower in mate value. These men ramp up heavy mate guarding because they believe they have lucked out in attracting a desirable woman and believe that she will be difficult or impossible to replace.”

“The modern proliferation of porn consumption, in short, has escalated both conflict between the sexes and the harms of female-female competition. The technology behind porn is modern. The sexual psychology it exploits is evolutionary ancient.”

“Female choice about when, where, with whom, and under which conditions they consent to sex is the deepest and most fundamental component of women's sexual psychology. It is a fundamental human right. Although men have coevolved strategies to undermine it, that freedom of choice should never be compromised.”

“Just as modern science has created novel vaccines and drugs to eliminate many "natural diseases", with enough knowledge we can create personal, social, and legal environments that curtail or suppress the components of male psychology that contribute to sexual coercion.”

“It is a source of power to recognize that women hold the reins in this evolutionary equation, and their mate selections, in principle, have the power to undermine male control and create greater equality between the sexes.”

“One way to curtail men's proprietary mindset is to empower women -a trend that started with first-wave feminists who ushered in women's right to vote and continues today with women's increasing access to their own resources.”

“Malamuth, Sockloskie, Koss, and Tanaka (1991) proposed a model of the characteristics of aggressors that suggests that coercive sex may be conceptualized as resulting from the convergence of (1) relatively high levels of ‘impersonal’ sex and (2) hostile, dominating characteristics… According to this model, the determinants of coercive sex can often be traced to early home experiences and parent–child interactions… Individuals experiencing this type of home environment may develop negative views of male–female relationships, which may foster a relatively impersonal orientation to sexuality, a hostile ‘schema’ about social relationships, or both.” (pp. 281–282)”

“En todo el mundo, los hombres desean que su esposa sea atractiva, joven y sexualmente leal y que le guarde fidelidad hasta la muerte. No cabe atribuir tales preferencias a la cultura occidental, al capitalismo, al fanatismo de los blancos anglosajones, a los medios de comunicación o al constante lavado cerebral de la publicidad. Son universales en todas las culturas y no hay ninguna en que no se manifiesten. Son mecanismos psicológicos evolutivos profundamente arraigados que dirigen nuestra decisión de emparejarnos, del mismo modo que las preferencias gustativas evolutivas dirigen nuestras decisiones de consumo alimenticio.”

“Se ha demostrado que el hombre que emplea la coerción para obtener relaciones sexuales manifiesta un conjunto específico de características. Suele ser agresivo con las mujeres, sostiene el mito de que en el fondo quieren ser violadas y presenta un perfil de personalidad marcado por la impulsividad, la agresividad y la hipervirilidad, combinados con un elevado grado de promiscuidad sexual. Los estudios sobre violadores demuestran asimismo que poseen una baja autoestima.”

“Como en el resto de las tendencias destructivas, el hecho de que el empleo del maltrato tenga una lógicas adaptativa subyacente no significa que debamos aceptarlo, desearlo o descuidar su erradicación. Por el contrario, una mayor comprensión de la lógica que subyace a tales tácticas y de los contextos en que se producen puede llevar a métodos más eficaces para reducirlas o eliminarlas.”

“Los restos paleontológicos revelan pruebas fascinantes de agresión entre hombres. Se han hallado trozos de lanzas y cuchillos alojados en los restos de cajas torácicas humanas. Las lesiones de cráneo y costillas son más frecuentes en el esqueleto masculino que en el femenino, lo que indica que el combate físico era una actividad fundamentalmente masculina.”

“An impersonal sexual orientation, which is typically associated with desires for a relatively large number of sexual partners, creates a high likelihood of rejection experiences… A relatively heightened sensitivity to rejection may lead to a subjective perception of frequent rejections irrespective of the objective reality.”