“When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.” PersonsPartners Author:Esther Perel
“In committed sex, in marriage, people don't feel the need to seduce or to build anticipation - - that's an effort they think they no longer need to do now that they have conquered their partner. If they're in the mood, their partner should be too.” PeopleIfsThinkingNeedsFeelsShouldSexEffortCommittedPartnersMoodAnticipationSeducing Author:Esther Perel
“There's something very full in knowing that your partner accepts you as is.” AcceptingKnowingPartners Author:Esther Perel
“In desire, there must be some small amount of tension. And that tension comes with the unknown, the unpredictable. You can close yourself off at home and say, "Whew, at last I'm in a place where I don't have to worry," or you can keep yourself open to the mystery and elusiveness of your partner.” HomeLastsDesireWorryMysteryAmountPartnersTensionUnpredictableLosing YourselfSmall AmountsElusiveness Author:Esther Perel
“Are you asking a question because you want to know the answer or are you asking the question because you want your partner to know that you are having this question?” KnowsWantAnswersAskingPartners Author:Esther Perel
“A peer relationship is one where the partners experience an affectionate, companionate coupledom. They are friends. They are the product of the egalitarian model; they are good life partners, but are often less sexual.” ProductsModelsPartnersGood LifePeersAffectionateLife Partner Author:Esther Perel
“Our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it rightfully falls within our jurisdiction.” ShouldDoeFallAssumingSexualityPartnersJurisdiction Author:Esther Perel
“If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another person in order to reconnect with those lost parts.” IfsFeelsPersonsEndsOrderLostGivenOne DayPartnersGiven Up Author:Esther Perel
