“When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become.” PersonsPartners Author:Esther Perel
“It's our imagination that's responsible for love, not the other person.” PersonsImaginationResponsible Author:Esther Perel
“In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person stays.” IfsPersonsNextGoes OnLoversDating Author:Esther Perel
“Success, to me, is helping one person or many people counter the isolation and pseudoconnectivity of our lives by boosting their ability to connect to themselves and to others.” PeoplePersonsHelpingAbilityOur LivesIsolationLive By Author:Esther Perel
“Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?” WellsPersonsTodayTurnsWonderWeightCommittedVillageFulfillingContinuitySexuallyGroundingCommitted Relationship Author:Esther Perel
“Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.” WantPersonsSelfElsewhere Author:Esther Perel
“If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another person in order to reconnect with those lost parts.” IfsFeelsPersonsEndsOrderLostGivenOne DayPartnersGiven Up Author:Esther Perel
“It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.” WantPersons Author:Esther Perel
“Sometimes it has to do with other longings that are much more existential. Sometimes you go elsewhere not because you are not liking the one you are with; you are not liking the person you have become.” PersonsSometimesLongingElsewhereExistential Author:Esther Perel
