“Call me an idealist, but I believe that love and desire are not mutually exclusive; they just don't always take place a the same time. In fact, security and passion are two separate fundamental human needs that spring from different motives and tend to pull us in different directions.” LoveDesirePassion Book:Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic Source: Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
“[eroticism is] quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of vitality, a life force" that's just as relevant to your work life as it is to your love life. Bringing eroticism into all areas of human existence is at the heart of her work. And because virtually everyone lives in a matrix of personal, professional, and transactional relationships, the erotic charge of those relationships is integrally tied to the pursuit of a meaningful life.” PassionRelationshipsSexualityMeaningMeaningful LifeEroticism Author:Esther Perel
“If you trade passion for stability, you basically trade one fiction for another. Both are products of our imagination.” PassionIllusionStability Author:Esther Perel
“On some level we trade passion for security, that's trading one illusion for another. It's a matter of degree. We can't live in constant fear, but we can't live without any. The fear of loss is essential to love.” MatterPassionLossLevelsSecurityEssentialsDegreesIllusionTradeConstantTrading Author:Esther Perel
“At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contradiction in terms - a passionate marriage. Passion has always existed, but it took place somewhere else. Everything that we wanted from a traditional marriage - companionship, family, children, economic support, a best friend, a passionate lover, a trusted confidante, an intellectual equal - we are asking from one person what an entire village once provided. And couples are crumbling under the weight of so much expectation.” ChildrenPassionTermSupportEconomicCoupleLoversEqualIntellectualExpectationsPassionateContradictionTrustedCompanionshipPassionate Love Author:Esther Perel
“At the same time, eroticism in the home requires active engagement and willful intent. It is an ongoing resistance to the message that marriage is serious, more work than play; and that passion is for teenagers and the immature. We must unpack our ambivalence about pleasure, and challenge our pervasive discomfort with sexuality, particularly in the context of family. Complaining of sexual boredom is easy and conventional. Nurturing eroticism in the home is an act of open defience.” PlayHomePassionEasyChallengesPleasureSeriousMessagesActiveSexualityComplainingResistanceTeenagerBoredomEngagementConventionalOngoingDiscomfortNurturingImmatureAmbivalence Author:Esther Perel
“Romantics value intensity over stability. Realists value security over passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at either extreme.” PeopleValuesPassionSecurityExtremesDisappointedStabilityIntensityRealist Book:Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Source: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
