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“Work-family conflicts - the trade-offs of your money or your life, your job or your child - would not be forced upon women with such sanguine disregard if men experienced the same career stalls caused by the-buck-stops-here responsibility for children.”

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Letty Cottin Pogrebin
Letty Cottin Pogrebin

Letty Cottin Pogrebin is an American author recognized for her contributions to feminism and Jewish culture. Born on June 9, 1939, she has been a significant figure in the feminist movement through her writing and activism. Pogrebin's works often delve into the intersection of gender, religion, and identity, providing valuable insights into contemporary life. more

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