“Shame is the proper reaction when one has purposefully violated the accepted behavior of society. Inflicting it is etiquette's response when its rules are disobeyed. The law has all kinds of nasty ways of retaliating when it is disregarded, but etiquette has only a sense of social shame to deter people from treating others in ways they know are wrong. So naturally Miss Manners wants to maintain the sense of shame. Some forms of discomfort are fully justified, and the person who feels shame ought to be dealing with removing its causes rather than seeking to relieve the symptoms.” PeopleKnowsWayWantFeelsKindPersonsFormLawSocialCausesMissingOughtBehaviorShameResponseSeekingAcceptedReactionsAll KindsMannersNastySymptomsJustifiedDiscomfortEtiquetteDisregardedTreating OthersMiss Manners Book:Miss Manners Rescues Civilization: From Sexual Harassment, Frivolous Lawsuits, Dissing, and Other Lapses in Civility Source: Miss Manners Rescues Civilization: From Sexual Harassment, Frivolous Lawsuits, Dissing, and Other Lapses in Civility
“There is a huge amount of shame connected to the feeling of not being loved, because love and family, biological or not, confirms our existence. Everyone needs to be seen, accepted and loved.” NeedsFeelingsExistenceHugeAmountShameConnectedAcceptedBeing LovedLove And Family Author:Anne Sewitsky
“While someone can attempt to shame you, shame must also be accepted to be effective. We can't make you feel shame without your participation.” LifeFeelsMotivationalWorkShameAcceptedParticipation Author:Seth
“The label of tasteful or tasteless is so often used to silence people and to maintain the status quo. It's used to shame people for not following the commonly accepted routine, for not aligning themselves with the status quo.” PeopleUsedSilenceShameFollowingAcceptedLabelsRoutineStatus Quo Author:Margaret Cho
“If guilt tells us that we've done something wrong, then shame tells us that we are something wrong. So many people feel isolated, not good enough, defined by the labels they wear rather than the identity they have in Christ. The love of Christ tells us that we're accepted; that we belong.” PeopleDoneEnoughChristIdentityShameGuiltAcceptedGood EnoughNot Good Enough Author:Sheila Walsh
“Once my heart was captured, reason was shown the door, deliberately and with a sort of frantic joy. I accepted everything, I believed everything, without struggle, without suffering, without regret, without false shame. How can one blush for what one adores?” HeartReasonJoySufferingStruggleDoorsRegretMy HeartShameAcceptedSandAdoreCapturedFrantic Author:George Sand
“Falling in love has been greatly overrated. Falling in love consists of 45 percent fear of not being accepted, 45 percent manic hope that this time the fear will be put to shame and a modest 10 percent frail awareness of the possibility of love. I don't fall in love any more. Just like I don't get the mumps.” Has BeensFallAwarenessPossibilityPercentShameFalling In LoveAcceptedModestOverratedFrailManicBeing AcceptedDon't Fall In Love Author:Peter Høeg
“It's a shame that cancer has been something that's been accepted in society as something that's always gonna be there.” Has BeensShameCancerAccepted Author:Kendall Schmidt