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This book delves into the concept of vulnerability as a key to personal growth and effective leadership. It examines how being open to vulnerability can lead to deeper connections, more authentic relationships, and improved parenting and leadership skills.
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“Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
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“There is no intimacy without vulnerability. Yet another powerful example of vulnerability as courage.”
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“Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.”
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“To live with courage, purpose, and connection - to be the person whom we long to be - we must again be vulnerable. We must ... show up, and let ourselves be seen.”
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“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center, of meaningful human experience.”
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“We are a culture of people who've bought into the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won't catch up with us.”
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“Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?”
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“What we know matters, but who we are matters more. Being rather than knowing requires showing up and letting ourselves be seen. It requires us to dare greatly, to be vulnerable.”
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“We don't have to be perfect, just engaged and committed to aligning values with actions.”
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“Dare to be the adults we want our children to be.”
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“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
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“We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time.”
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“Hope is really a thought.”
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“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
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“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
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“I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred. Perhaps embracing vulnerability and overcoming numbing is ultimately about the care and feeding of our spirits”
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“What we know matters but who we are matters more.”
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“After doing this work or the past twelve years and watching scarcity ride roughshod over our families, organizations, and communities, I'd say the one thing we have in common is that we're sick of feeling afraid. we want to dare greatly. We're tired of the national conversation centering on "What should we fear" and "Who should we blame?" We all want to be brave.”
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“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.”
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“Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we're angry and scared and at each other's throats.”
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“Even to me the issue of "stay small, sweet, quiet, and modest" sounds like an outdated problem, but the truth is that women still run into those demands whenever we find and use our voices.”
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“If you own this story you get to write the ending.”
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“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”
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“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.”
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“Nostalgia is also a dangerous form of comparison. Think about how often we compare our lives to a memory that nostalgia has so completely edited that it never really existed.”
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“I've found what makes children happy doesn't always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.”
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“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.”
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“The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.”
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“Numb the dark and you numb the light.”
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“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.”
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“Wholeheartedness. There are many tenets of Wholeheartedness, but at its very core is vulnerability and worthiness; facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that I am enough.”
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“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
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“Hope is a function of struggle.”
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“The real questions for parents should be: "Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?" If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfect parenting moments turn into gifts as our children watch us try to figure out what went wrong and how we can do better next time. The mandate is not to be perfect and raise happy children. Perfection doesn't exist, and I've found what makes children happy doesn't always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.”
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“If we are going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of *what we're supposed to be* is brave. To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.”
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“Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart.”
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“Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.”
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“I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let’s think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can’t ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow—that’s vulnerability.”
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“We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.”
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“Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives.”
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“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
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“When we spend our lives waiting until we're perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make.”
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“Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.”
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“We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.”
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“If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”
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“Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement.”
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“Self-compassion is key because when we're able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we're more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy.”
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“Love is a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them - we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”
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“Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust. It's not oversharing, it's not purging, it's not indiscriminate disclosure, and it's not celebrity-style social media information dumps. Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.”
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“Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance.”
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