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“I don't think I could play a character that I couldn't relate to somehow. I'm not unfamiliar with frustration, anger, shame, helplessness and a load of other emotions that make up our psycho-soup. I try to focus on that frustration, that sense of unfairness, and multiply it.”

Thinking Trying Play Character Emotion Focus Shame Relate Frustration Load Soup Helplessness Unfamiliar Psycho Unfairness

Author:Terry O'Quinn

“Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.”

Source: The Way to Wealth and Poor Richard's Almanac

“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough.”

Enough Powerful Emotion Masters Shame Most Powerful Good Enough Not Good Enough

Author:Brené Brown

“Shame and guilt are noble emotions essential in the maintenance of civilized society, and vital for the development of some of the most refined and elegant qualities of human potential.”

Humans Emotion Quality Development Essentials Shame Guilt Noble Civilized Melancholy Elegant Refined Maintenance Human Potential Civilized Society Shame And Guilt

Author:Willard Gaylin

“Shame, I do believe, is the most powerful emotion known to man; most discoveries and journeys of importance have been accomplished because of the ignominy that would be the result if the attempt was abandoned.”

Ifs Men Believe Has Beens Would Be Results Powerful Emotion Known Journey Discovery Importance Shame Accomplished Most Powerful Abandoned Ignominy Powerful Emotions

Book:An Instance of the Fingerpost

Source: An Instance of the Fingerpost

“laughter, that distinctively human emotion, laughter which springs from trust in the other, from willingness to put oneself momentarily in the other's place, even at one's own expense, is the special emotional basis of democratic procedures, just as pride is the emotion of an aristocracy, shame of a crowd that rules, and fear of a police state.”

Humans States Emotion Democracy Special Emotional Pride Spring Laughter Bases Police Shame Democratic Oneself Crowds Expenses Willingness Procedures Aristocracy Police State Human Emotions

Author:Margaret Mead

“Healthy shame is an emotion that teaches us about our limits. Like all emotions, shame moves us to get our basic needs met.”

Needs Moving Emotion Teach Healthy Mets Limits Shame Basic Needs

Book:Healing the Shame that Binds You

Source: Healing the Shame that Binds You

“The distinction between shame and guilt is very important, since these two emotions may tear a person in opposite directions. The wish to relieve guilt may motivate a confession, but the wish to avoid the humiliation of shame may prevent it.”

May Persons Two Important Wish Emotion Tears Opposites Shame Guilt Distinction Confession Humiliation Shame And Guilt

Author:Paul Ekman

“It was the emotion I hated the most of all emotions, shame.”

Emotion Shame Hated

Book:A Deeper Love Inside: The Porsche Santiaga Story

Source: A Deeper Love Inside: The Porsche Santiaga Story

“I'm just made differently. Man, I just love being an American, I love my country. But it happened to me during the Nixon time, especially pre-Watergate, that as I watched Nixon for the first time in my life I felt shame. I had to analyze myself. What is this emotion? I realized that my government was separate from my country. It was the first time I ever felt ashamed of the government, not the country.”

Men Firsts Made Country Government Felt Love Is Emotion Happened First Time Shame I Realized Ashamed Watergate

Author:John Fogerty

“I'm not sure if the shame/guilt distinction resonates for me. I just know that shame is a debilitating emotion that is perpetuated by Church and State.”

Ifs Knows States Church Emotion Shame Guilt Not Sure Distinction Church And State

Author:Marilyn Dumont

“I think that now most people know someone in their family that is coping with something, but there is still a tremendous amount of shame - that one is still regarded as a defective unit ... if only they would pull up their bootstraps - they are only indulging their emotions, everybody's moody, blah, blah, blah.”

People Ifs Thinking Knows Stills Emotion Amount Shame Units Coping Defective Moody Blah Pull Ups Bootstraps

Author:Carrie Fisher

“I can't say anything other than the fact that I feel a range of emotions including guilt, shame, sadness, betrayal, freedom and appreciation for those who have stood by me, been tough on me, and have taken the time to understand that there is a deeper story and not to believe everything they read in the newspapers.”

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Author:Jayson Blair

“Despite their differences, pride, shame, and guilt all activate similar neural circuits, including the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex, amygdala, insula, and the nucleus accumbens. Interestingly, pride is the most powerful of these emotions at triggering activity in these regions - except in the nucleus accumbens, where guilt and shame win out. This explains why it can be so appealing to heap guilt and shame on ourselves - they're activating the brain's reward center.”

Winning Differences Powerful Emotion Brain Pride Activity Shame Guilt Rewards Including Despite Regions Most Powerful Circuits Activate Nucleus Shame And Guilt

Author:David D. Burns

“I think that shame is a universal, paralyzing, painful emotion.”

Thinking Emotion Universal Shame Painful

Author:Brené Brown

“That's part of what I touch on in my [UN] speech - when assaults happen on women and girls in these fragile countries, in these places of crisis, there isn't the psychosocial support. There aren't counseling services. It's not in a lot of cultures to explicitly talk about things that maybe have happened to the body. So, repression of emotion, and shame, and guilt is something that really needs to be handled in humanitarian crises.”

Needs Country Body Happens Culture Girl Emotion Support Happened Speech Shame Crisis Guilt Humanitarian Fragile Assault Repression Counseling Shame And Guilt

Author:Natalie Dormer

“Emotions like guilt and shame cut you off from web of existence and that causes inflammation in the body. I would recommend that you go to a level of awareness where you can be an observer of your thoughts and emotions and use mindfulness.”

Use Body Causes Levels Emotion Existence Cutting Awareness Mindfulness Shame Guilt Observers Thoughts And Emotions

Author:Deepak Chopra

“Indignation and determination are much more constructive emotions than shame and embarrassment. And feminism was this engine that turned one into the other.”

Emotion Feminism Determination Shame Embarrassment

Author:Lindy West

“We need never be ashamed of our tears.”

Source: Great Expectations

“Mari remembered what she had read in the young girl's eyes the moment she had come into the refectory: fear. Fear. Veronika might feel insecurity, shyness, shame, constraint, but why fear? That was only justifiable when confronted by a real threat: ferocious animals, armed attackers, earthquakes, but not a group of people gathered together in a refectory. But human beings are like that,' she thought. 'We've replaced nearly all our emotions with fear.”

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Author:Paulo Coelho

“Suffering... is not just lots of pain but pain amplified by distinctly human emotions such as regret, self-pity, shame, humiliation, and dread.”

Humans Self Pain Suffering Emotion Regret Shame Pity Dread Humiliation Self Pity Human Emotions

Author:Michael Pollan

“Shame is a soul eating emotion.”

Inspirational Soul Emotion Eating Shame

Author:Carl Jung

“I'm not ashamed of anything I've done. Shame is a useless emotion.”

Done Emotion Shame Useless Ashamed

Author:Candace Bushnell

“Shame was an emotion he had abandoned years earlier. Addicts know no shame. You disgrace yourself so many times you become immune to it.”

Knows Years Emotion Shame Addiction Recovery Abandoned Addict Disgrace Immune

Author:John Grisham

“If you are in the closet and fall in love with someone of the same gender, it doesn't automatically remove the shame and fear that's kept you locked away. The love you are experiencing encourages you to face the reality that this is who you really are and also has the power to set you free. The richness, beauty and depths of love can only be fully experienced in a climate of complete openness, honesty and vulnerability. Love, the most powerful of human emotions, is calling you to freedom and wholeness.”

“The cruelest lies are often told in silence. A man may have sat in a room for hours and not opened his teeth, and yet come out of that room a disloyal friend or a vile calumniator. And how many loves have perished because, from pride, or spite, or diffidence, or that unmanly shame which withholds a man from daring to betray emotion, a lover, at the critical point of the relation, has but hung his head and held his tongue?”

Source: The Complete Works of Robert Louis Stevenson: Novels, Short Stories, Poems, Plays, Memoirs, Travel Sketches, Letters and Essays (Illustrated Edition): The Entire Opus of Scottish novelist, poet, essayist and travel writer, containing Treasure Island, Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, Kidnapped, Catriona and A Child's Garden of Verses

“Closeness can lead to emotions other than love. It's the ones who have been too intimate with you, lived in too close quarters, seen too much of your pain or envy or, perhaps more than anything, your shame, who, at the crucial moment, can be too easy to cut out, to exile, to expel, to kill off.”

Has Beens Moments Pain Easy Emotion Too Much Cutting Shame Envy Intimate Crucial Quarters Exile Closeness Crucial Moments

Author:Daniel Mendelsohn

“If there is a sort of national American emotion I would call it optimism. If there is an English one I would call it embarrassment - not even pessimism - just sheer shame, embarrassment and confusion.”

Ifs Emotion Optimism Shame Confusion Pessimism Sheer Embarrassment

Author:Stephen Fry

“As a people, we value family, education and success. Hunger is an enemy to all three. Scientific studies have demonstrated that even brief periods of hunger can permanently inhibit a child's mental, emotional and physical growth. Kids who are hungry do poorly in school and are unlikely to grow into productive adults. For families, experiencing hunger means living in a world of isolation and shame. Caring citizens must put an end to this disgrace.”

“Shame is such an intense emotion. It just can drive you.”

Emotion Shame Intense Intense Emotions

Author:Kyra Sedgwick

“Shame is an unhappy emotion invented by pietists in order to exploit the human race.”

Humans Order Race Emotion Shame Unhappy Human Race Exploits

Author:Blake Edwards

“Le pire dans la honte, c'est qu'on croit être seul à la ressentir”

Emotion Shame Feeling Annie Ernaux Honte

Book:La Honte

Source: La Honte

“Anger is a partnership of two forces in which one of the partners is silent. Anger is the present and accountable emotion while Shame is the silent partner, the thought that projects in the background. Shame is the belief in eternal lack of resolve, which creates violence.”

Emotion Violence Anger Shame Angry Mindset Thought Resolution Emotional Intelligence Mindset Mastery

Author:Deborah Bravandt

“I had been much more in love with my wife than she with me, that was all. Somehow, you were supposed to be ashamed of this, as though love were a perpetual jostling for the roles of pursuer and pursued. As if it didn’t take more courage to admit that someone held your hopes of happiness in their hands. As if it were a choice.”

Love Emotion Marriage Shame Divorce Devotion Beloved Unfair Lover Pursued Pursuer

Book:In a Dark Wood

Source: In a Dark Wood

“Feeling bad is not the problem. The problem is that we feel bad about feeling bad. Once you begin to let go of feeling bad about feeling bad, and start feeling better about feeling bad, then pretty soon you'll just feel better. And then you'll feel awesome.”

“Changes in Relationship with others: It is especially hard to trust other people if you have been repeatedly abused, abandoned or betrayed as a child. Mistrust makes it very difficult to make friends, and to be able to distinguish between good and bad intentions in other people. Some parts do not seem to trust anyone, while other parts may be so vulnerable and needy that they do not pay attention to clues that perhaps a person is not trustworthy. Some parts like to be close to others or feel a desperate need to be close and taken care of, while other parts fear being close or actively dislike people. Some parts are afraid of being in relationships while others are afraid of being rejected or criticized. This naturally sets up major internal as well as relational conflicts.”

Fear Relationships Emotion Emotional Trust Personality Shame Guilt Memory Trauma Betrayal Survivor Ptsd Dissociative Identity Disorder Mistrust Bond Dissociative Complex Ptsd

Book:Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

Source: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

“Alterations in regulation of affect (emotion) and impulse: Almost all people who are seriously traumatized have problems in tolerating and regulating their emotions and surges or impulses. However, those with complex PTSD and dissociative disorders tend to have more difficulties than those with PTSD because disruptions in early development have inhibited their ability to regulate themselves. The fact that you have a dissociative organization of your personality makes you highly vulnerable to rapid and unexpected changes in emotions and sudden impulses. Various parts of the personality intrude on each other either through passive influence or switching when your under stress, resulting in dysregulation. Merely having an emotion, such as anger, may evoke other parts of you to feel fear or shame, and to engage in impulsive behaviors to stop avoid the feelings.”

Source: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

“Changes in Meaning: Finally, chronically traumatized people lose faith that good things can happen and people can be kind and trustworthy. They feel hopeless, often believing that the future will be as bad as the past, or that they will not live long enough to experience a good future. People who have a dissociative disorder may have different meanings in various dissociative parts. Some parts may be relatively balanced in their worldview, others may be despairing, believing the world to be a completely negative, dangerous place, while other parts might maintain an unrealistic optimistic outlook on life”

Source: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

“Complex PTSD consists of of six symptom clusters, which also have been described in terms of dissociation of personality. Of course, people who receive this diagnosis often also suffer from other problems as well, and as noted earlier, diagnostic categories may overlap significantly. The symptom clusters are as follows: Alterations in Regulation of Affect ( Emotion ) and Impulses Changes in Relationship with others Somatic Symptoms Changes in Meaning Changes in the perception of Self Changes in Attention and Consciousness”

Fear Relationships Emotion Emotional Trust Personality Shame Guilt Memory Trauma Betrayal Survivor Ptsd Dissociative Identity Disorder Mistrust Bond Dissociative Complex Ptsd

Book:Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

Source: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

“Changes in the Perception of Self: People who have been traumatized in childhood are often troubled by guilt, shame, and negative feelings about themselves, such as the belief they are unlikable, unlovable, stupid, inept, dirty, worthless, lazy, and so forth. In Complex Dissociative disorders there are typically particular parts that contain these negative feelings about the self while other parts may evaluate themselves quite differently. Alterations among parts thus may result in rather rapid and distinct changes in self perception.”

Fear Emotion Emotional Personality Shame Guilt Memory Trauma Survivor Ptsd Dissociative Identity Disorder Amnesia Dissociative Worthlessness Complex Ptsd Affect Affect Regulation Disregulated

Book:Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists

Source: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists