“For the child whose impulsiveness is indulged, who retains his primitive-discharge mechanisms, is not only an ill-behaved child but a child whose intellectual development is slowed down. No matter how well he is endowed intellectually, if direct action and immediate gratification are the guiding principles of his behavior, there will be less incentive to develop the higher mental processes, to reason, to employ the imagination creatively. . . .” IfsWellsChildrenMatterReasonActionProcessImaginationPrinciplesDevelopmentHigherBehaviorIntellectualDirectIllMechanismPrimitiveIncentivesGratificationDischargeGuiding PrinciplesDirect ActionIntellectual DevelopmentImmediate Gratification Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
“If we can find a principle to guide us in the handling of the child between nine and eighteen months, we can see that we need to allow enough opportunity for handling and investigation of objects to further intellectual development and just enough restriction required for family harmony and for the safety of the child.” IfsNeedsChildrenEnoughOpportunityPrinciplesObjectsMonthsDevelopmentIntellectualHarmonySafetyGuidesNineInvestigationRestrictionEighteenIntellectual Development Author:Selma Fraiberg
“It seems to me that we have to draw the line in sibling rivalry whenever rivalry goes out of bounds into destructive behavior of aphysical or verbal kind. The principle needs to be this: Whatever the reasons for your feelings you will have to find civilized solutions.” NeedsKindReasonFeelingsSeemsLinesPrinciplesBehaviorSolutionsDrawsBoundsDestructiveCivilizedSiblingRivalrySibling RivalryDestructive Behavior Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
