“There must be a solemn and terrible aloneness that comes over the child as he takes those first independent steps. All this is lost to memory and we can only reconstruct it through analogies in later life....To the child who takes his first steps and finds himself walking alone, this moment must bring the first sharp sense of the uniqueness and separateness of his body and his person, the discovery of the solitary self.” FirstsChildrenPersonsSelfMomentsBodyLostImaginationMemoriesStepsTerribleWalkingDiscoveryIndependentFirst StepsSolitaryUniquenessSolemnAnalogiesSeparatenessWalking Alone Author:Selma Fraiberg
“Whenever reality reinforces a child's fantasied dangers, the child will have more difficulty in overcoming them...So, while parents may not regard a spanking as a physical attack or an assault on a child's body, the child may regard it as such, and experience it as a confirmation of his fears that grown-ups under certain circumstances can really hurt you.” MayChildrenBodyRealityCertainParentHurtDangerCircumstancesOvercomingDifficultyRegardAssaultConfirmationSpanking Author:Selma Fraiberg
“The child begins life as a pleasure-seeking animal; his infantile personality is organized around his own appetites and his own body. In the course of his rearing the goal of exclusive pleasure seeking must be modified drastically, the fundamental urges must be subject to the dictates of conscience and society, urges must be capable of postponement and in some instances of renunciation completely.” ChildrenBodyCoursesGoalPleasureAnimalSubjectsPersonalityCapableConscienceFundamentalsSeekingInstanceOrganizedUrgesAppetiteExclusiveRenunciationInfantilePostponementPleasure Seeking Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
