“The experience of a sense of guilt for wrong-doing is necessary for the development of self-control. The guilt feelings will laterserve as a warning signal which the child can produce himself when an impulse to repeat the naughty act comes over him. When the child can produce his on warning signals, independent of the actual presence of the adult, he is on the way to developing a conscience.” WayChildrenSelfFeelingsProduceDevelopmentConscienceAdultsIndependentGuiltDevelopingImpulseRepeatsWarningSelf ControlSignalsNaughtyGuilt Feelings Author:Selma Fraiberg
“For the child whose impulsiveness is indulged, who retains his primitive-discharge mechanisms, is not only an ill-behaved child but a child whose intellectual development is slowed down. No matter how well he is endowed intellectually, if direct action and immediate gratification are the guiding principles of his behavior, there will be less incentive to develop the higher mental processes, to reason, to employ the imagination creatively. . . .” IfsWellsChildrenMatterReasonActionProcessImaginationPrinciplesDevelopmentHigherBehaviorIntellectualDirectIllMechanismPrimitiveIncentivesGratificationDischargeGuiding PrinciplesDirect ActionIntellectual DevelopmentImmediate Gratification Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
“We must remember when we speak of the "negativism" of the toddler that this is also the child who is intoxicated with the discoveries of the second year, a joyful child who is firmly bound to his parents and his new-found world through ties of love. The so-called negativism is one of the aspects of this development, but under ordinary circumstances it does not become anarchy. It's a kind of declaration of independence, but there is no intention to unseat the government.” WorldYearsKindChildrenDoeGovernmentRememberFoundSpeakParentDevelopmentCircumstancesOrdinaryDiscoveryAspectIndependenceIntentionBoundsTiesAnarchyJoyfulDeclarationRemember WhenDeclaration Of IndependenceToddlerIntoxicatedTies Of Love Author:Selma Fraiberg
“If we can find a principle to guide us in the handling of the child between nine and eighteen months, we can see that we need to allow enough opportunity for handling and investigation of objects to further intellectual development and just enough restriction required for family harmony and for the safety of the child.” IfsNeedsChildrenEnoughOpportunityPrinciplesObjectsMonthsDevelopmentIntellectualHarmonySafetyGuidesNineInvestigationRestrictionEighteenIntellectual Development Author:Selma Fraiberg
“It no longer makes sense to speak of "feeding problems" or "sleep problems" or "negative behavior" is if they were distinct categories, but to speak of "problems of development" and to search for the meaning of feeding and sleep disturbances or behavior disorders in the developmental phase which has produced them.” IfsProblemSpeakSleepDevelopmentBehaviorNegativeMake SenseCategoriesDisorderPhasesFeedingDisturbanceDevelopmentalNegative Behavior Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
