“A two-year-old can be taught to curb his aggressions completely if the parents employ strong enough methods, but the achievement of such control at an early age may be bought at a price which few parents today would be willing to pay. The slow education for control demands much more parental time and patience at the beginning, but the child who learns control in this way will be the child who acquires healthy self-discipline later.” IfsWayYearsMayChildrenTwoSelfEnoughWould BeAgeTodayStrongParentPayTaughtWillingDisciplineHealthyDemandAchievementMethodAcquireTwo YearsAggressionSelf DisciplineStrong EnoughParentalCurbTwo Year OldsTime And Patience Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
“The experience of a sense of guilt for wrong-doing is necessary for the development of self-control. The guilt feelings will laterserve as a warning signal which the child can produce himself when an impulse to repeat the naughty act comes over him. When the child can produce his on warning signals, independent of the actual presence of the adult, he is on the way to developing a conscience.” WayChildrenSelfFeelingsProduceDevelopmentConscienceAdultsIndependentGuiltDevelopingImpulseRepeatsWarningSelf ControlSignalsNaughtyGuilt Feelings Author:Selma Fraiberg
“We have good reason to believe that memories of early childhood do not persist in consciousness because of the absence or fragmentary character of language covering this period. Words serve as fixatives for mental images. . . . Even at the end of the second year of life when word tags exist for a number of objects in the child's life, these words are discrete and do not yet bind together the parts of an experience or organize them in a way that can produce a coherent memory.” WayYearsBelieveChildrenEndsReasonCharacterTogetherLanguageMemoriesNumbersConsciousnessChildhoodObjectsProducePeriodsAbsencePersistOrganizeCoveringTagEarly ChildhoodYears Of LifeDiscrete Book:The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood Source: The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood
“An older child, one who possesses a conscience, will be troubled with self-reproaches and feelings of shame for his naughtiness, even if he is not discovered. But our two-year-olds and our three-year- olds experience guilt feelings only when they feel or anticipate disapproval from the outside. In doing this, they have taken the first steps toward the goal of conscience, but there is a long way ahead before the policeman outside becomes the policeman inside.” IfsWayFeelsYearsFirstsChildrenLongTwoSelfFeelingsThreeGoalStepsTakenConscienceShameGuiltTwo YearsThree YearsFirst StepsLong WayPolicemenAnticipateReproachDisapprovalThree Year OldsTwo Year OldsGuilt Feelings Author:Selma Fraiberg
