“This country you're sitting in right now was not built on love, hugs, time-outs and trophies you didn't earn. This country was built on shame, humiliation and striving to be better. By the way, if you're in this room right now and you're successful... you didn't get there because someone loved you too much or gave you too many hugs or you got a trophy when you lost. You did it because at one point in your life, somebody turned to you and said you're a loser, and in that second, you decided to bust your ass to make them choke on that sentence... Or, your parents gave you the money.” IfsWaySaidCountryLostParentRoomsSuccessfulToo MuchRight NowSittingBuiltDecidedShameStriveSentencesAssLoserHugHumiliationOne LoveChokeTrophiesLost You Author:Christopher Titus
“I keep thinking about this river somewhere, with the water moving really fast. And these two people in the water, trying to hold onto each other, holding on as hard as they can, but in the end it's just too much. The current's too strong. They've got to let go, drift apart. That's how it is with us. It's a shame, Kath, because we've loved each other all our lives. But in the end, we can't stay together forever.” PeopleThinkingLoveTryingTwoEndsHardTogetherMovingStrongWaterForeverToo MuchOur LivesLetting GoRiversShameCurrentsHolding OnLet Me GoTogether ForeverNever Let Me Go Author:Kazuo Ishiguro
“Too much of water hast thou, poor Ophelia, And therefore I forbid my tears: But yet It is our trick; nature her custom holds, Let shame say what it will: when these are gone, The woman will be out. — Adieu, my lord! I have a speech of fire, that fain would blaze, But that this folly drowns it.” WaterPoorLordGoneDoubtFireToo MuchTearsSpeechShameTricksFollyOpheliaAdieu Author:William Shakespeare
“But it is the knowledge of how contingent my unease is, how dependent on a baby that wails beneath my window one day and does not wail the next, that brings the worst shame to me, the greatest indifference to annihilation. I know somewhat too much; and from this knowledge, once one has been infected, there seems to be no recovering. I ought never to have taken my lantern to see what was going on in the hut by the granary. On the other hand, there was no way, once I had picked up the lantern, for me to put it down again. The knot loops in upon itself; I cannot find the end.” KnowsWayDoeHas BeensEndsHandsSeemsNextTakenToo MuchWorstBabyOughtOne DayWindowShameIndifferenceDependentKnotsAnnihilationLoopsRecoveringHutsLanterns Book:Waiting for the Barbarians: A Novel Source: Waiting for the Barbarians: A Novel
“And no, it wasn't shame I now felt, or guilt, but something rarer in my life and stronger than both: remorse. A feeling which is more complicated, curdled, and primeval. Whose chief characteristic is that nothing can be done about it: too much time has passed, too much damage has been done, for amends to be made.” Has BeensMadeDoneFeelingsFeltToo MuchStrongerShameGuiltComplicatedChiefsDamageCharacteristicsRemorseAmendsPrimeval Book:The Sense of an Ending Source: The Sense of an Ending
“We remain silent because we've taken on a responsibility and/or shame that was never ours to carry. Forgive yourself for things that were not your fault. Bad decisions, mistaken trust, physical weakness, or too much fear to act do not make an assault on you or someone you care about your fault. Ever.” CareDecisionResponsibilityTakenToo MuchWeaknessShameForgivingFaultsSilentMistakenAssaultForgive YourselfBad Decision Author:Tammara Webber
“Closeness can lead to emotions other than love. It's the ones who have been too intimate with you, lived in too close quarters, seen too much of your pain or envy or, perhaps more than anything, your shame, who, at the crucial moment, can be too easy to cut out, to exile, to expel, to kill off.” Has BeensMomentsPainEasyEmotionToo MuchCuttingShameEnvyIntimateCrucialQuartersExileClosenessCrucial Moments Author:Daniel Mendelsohn
“The bold defiance of a woman is the certain sign of her shame, - when she has once ceased to blush, it is because she has too much to blush for.” CertainToo MuchShameDefiance Author:Charles Maurice de Talleyrand
“I ate too much and masturbated too recently, you know? It's bad to like jerk off and run out the door, 'cause you run into somebody. "Oh, she knows..." You got to take some time alone to process the shame.” ThinkingKnowsRunningCausesProcessLaughingToo MuchDoorsShameJerkMe AloneAlone Time Author:Louis C. K.
“Verily, I do not like them, the merciful who feel blessed in their pity: they are lacking too much in shame. If I must pity, at least I do not want it known; and if I do pity, it is preferably from a distance.” IfsWantFeelsKnownToo MuchShameBlessedDistancePityLackingMerciful Book:The Portable Nietzsche Source: The Portable Nietzsche