Best Childhood Trauma Quotes | Short & Famous Sayings Page 2

Source: Becoming Superman: My Journey from Poverty to Hollywood with Stops Along the Way at Murder, Madness, Mayhem, Movie Stars, Cults, Slums, Sociopaths, and War Crimes

“The hands on Eddie's childhood glass then were hard and calloused and red with anger, and he went through his younger years whacked, lashed, and beaten. This was the second damage done, the one after neglect. The damage of violence. It got so that Eddie could tell by the thump of the footsteps coming down the hall how hard he was going to get it.”

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Book:The Five People You Meet In Heaven

Source: The Five People You Meet In Heaven

“Most people think their childhood was happy till they sit down in a room with abstract art on the wall in front of them a clipboard and behind that clipboard a person with a blank expression.”

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Book:Things I Have Noticed: Essays on leaving/searching/finding

Source: Things I Have Noticed: Essays on leaving/searching/finding

“He didn't want to put up with things as they were, but the other choice meant that he'd have to be his own mother, and how could you be your own mother when you were only twelve?”

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Book:About a Boy

Source: About a Boy

“Most of us learn in childhood to "cope"--which is to say ignore, numb, manage, or reinterpret reality. We do it to survive, but our relational instincts get bent in the process.”

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Book:All In: How to Risk Everything for Everything that Matters

Source: All In: How to Risk Everything for Everything that Matters

“I used to scream, “Daddy!” and hug him when he came home, Until one day I got scared hugging a father I didn’t know. Who is daddy except for that one man in my house at night To eat dinner, sleep, and go away again?”

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Book:The Goodbye Song

Source: The Goodbye Song

“If unloving mothers were able to see their behavious as abusive, they either would stop behaving that way or they would get help for their dysfunction. But many cannot: instead, they deny it, to themselves, their families, and the world at large, in order to avoid a sense of guilt, to avoid having to make changes in their lives, or to avoid the bruising awareness that they, too, were unloved children.”

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Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“If you are told from the time you are one month that you're no good and you're not smart and you can't do it and you don't have an opinion of your own and you pick the wrong friends and you don't study the right way and you don't wear the right clothes and you don't look nice, at some point you're going to start believing it. And if you believe it, you're going to need a mommy to tell you what to do. And that's abuse. Not to let your child grow up to be an independent, respected human being.”

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Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“Another step is that daughters can learn to monitor their own feelings and instincts by saying, "I feel uncomfortable (angry, dominated, usurped, inadequate, guilty, furious) with my mother more often than I do not. I have to pay attention to that, because it shows in how I treat my friends (lover, spouse, kids, colleagues). There is validity here. I don't have to blame or excuse my mother-I just have to see her so I can see myself.”

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Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“When a mother attempts to bind a grown daughter to her, whether by fear or neediness or illness or rage, the consequences can be devastating. To continue trying to please an unpleasable mother threatens an adult daughter's mental health and all of her relationships. And yet such daughters keep coming back to their mothers, without the daughters' altering that relationship and their bitter or anguished reactions to it.”

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Book:When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

Source: When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

“An individual's perception and worldview are thought to be determined early in life.”

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Book:The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

Source: The Effects of Childhood Trauma on Adult Perception and Worldview

“By the time I was five, he yelled at me so much I thought my name was Asshole.”

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Author:Dan Gilroy

“Adulthood is an attempt to become the antithesis of the wounded child within us.”

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Author:Stewart Stafford

“But what happens to the girl with no positive parental examples? What happens to the girl with the cold mother who conditioned herself to bury her emotions? And what happens to the girl with the father who is an example of who not to marry?”

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Author:LaTasha “Tacha B.” Braxton

“If a child’s emotional and intellectual freedom is restricted, their development and well-being suffer, which leads to complex problems in later life. Deprivation of thought and emotion results in an irrationality of cognition, feeling, and communication.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“Only when a child’s authenticity is threatened do they develop unhealthy behaviors, distorted reality perceptions, and emotional difficulties. When you force a child to do what they don’t want to do, feel what they don’t feel, and think what they don’t think, their authentic self becomes damaged.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“A controlled child also learns that the default human approach to interaction is forcing, threatening, or manipulating others. Alternatively, they may come to believe that they are “destined” to be a giver who never receives anything back.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“Furthermore, the controlling caregiver possesses poor boundaries, if they have any at all. These poor boundaries set the child up for numerous failures in adult life. The controlled child is like a chess piece or toy soldier who is constantly moved around, picked up, put down, ordered to do this, ordered not to do that, commanded to feel this, and commanded not to feel that.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“Meanwhile, infants and small children are exceptionally authentic beings because their emotional reactions and their thoughts are raw and honest. If they are happy, they smile, giggle, exclaim in pure joy, and feel excited, motivated, curious, and creative. If they are hurt, they cry, disengage, get angry, seek help and protection, and feel betrayed, sad, scared, lonely, and helpless. They don’t hide behind a mask.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“The child of a controlling caregiver believes that there are always winners and losers in life, and that the winners have all the power and the losers must neglect their own senses, needs, and wants. The result is that they gain a deformed and inaccurate picture of the world—the only world they know.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“One of the most common corruptions of childrearing remains the controlling caregiver’s propensity to shape the child into an object aligned with the caregiver’s own unprocessed trauma. Controlling caregivers have a variety of methods at their disposal to accomplish this, including such “civilized” approaches as manipulating, conditionally loving, withdrawing attention, threatening, isolating, shaming, guilt-tripping, humiliating, and withdrawing resources.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“A child needs to feel safe and protected, which means that their body, psyche, and belongings are safe and secure from violation. Because a child is helpless and dependent on their caregiver, they need a guardian in this predominantly unknown and sometimes scary and dangerous world. A child’s caregiver is responsible to fit the roles of safe haven and protector.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“...the child cries because they need something. If the child had the ability to take care of the problem themselves, they wouldn’t cry. And if their crying is ignored, they start to feel helpless and frustrated because they can’t get what they need. They may even fear abandonment—or feel that their life is in danger because no one is coming to help them. Failing to meet a crying child’s needs also teaches the child that their needs and feelings are unimportant and even dangerous, and that they are bad and unworthy of love.”

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Author:Darius Cikanavicius

“Crying is the primary way by which infants and small children convey their needs. Their cries can be from hunger, pain, fear, neglect, and many other things. It is the caregiver’s responsibility to correctly decipher these needs and then meet them. It is tragically common, however, that the child’s cries are so often ignored, misunderstood, and even taken as an "attack" on the caregiver, which may result in an active and brutal punishment of the child.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“Children need their caregiver’s presence, interaction, connection, and emotional availability. Not only are these fundamental elements closely related to feelings of safety and security, they are also vital for a child’s healthy development. Since the child’s well-being depends on the bond between themselves and their caregiver, it is their caregiver’s responsibility to be very attentive both to their own selves and to their child.”

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Book:Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

Source: Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults

“Ignoring a baby’s cries without addressing their needs can permanently harm them. All of these failures may lead a child to have post-traumatic stress disorder or any of the forms of panic disorder in their adulthood.”

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Author:Darius Cikanavicius

“I sometimes wonder what it would have been like to have a childhood that was _not_ like mine. I have no real frame of reference, but when I question strangers I've found that their childhood generally had much less blood in it, and also that strangers seem uncomfortable when you question them about their childhood. But really, what else are you going to talk about in line at the liquor store? Childhood trauma seems like the natural choice, since it's the reason why most of us are in line there to begin with.”

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Book:Let's Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir

Source: Let's Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir