“Common sense should tell us that positively reinforcing sadistic behavior, as these games do, cannot be good for our children.” ShouldChildrenGamesCommonBehaviorOur ChildrenBe GoodCommon SensePositivelySadistic Author:Sam Brownback
“The principal task is to put spiritual foundations under both our child's life and our own. This triggers a shift in the elemental way in which we relate to our children, with the result that their behavior automatically falls in line as they become aware of, and true to, who they really are. Behavioral changes are an outgrowth of a shift in the relationship.” WayChildrenSpiritualFallLinesResultsBehaviorTasksOur ChildrenFoundationRelatePrincipalTriggersElementalsBehavioral Change Author:Shefali Tsabary
“Children model the behavior of adults, on whatever scale is available to them. Ours are growing up in a nation whose most important, influential men - from presidents to the coolest film characters - solve problems by killing people. ... We have taught our children in a thousand ways, sometimes with flag-waving and sometimes with a laugh track, that the bad guy deserves to die.” PeopleMenWayChildrenImportantSometimesCharacterProblemFilmGuyDiesNationsPresidentLaughingGrowing UpGrowingTaughtThousandBehaviorModelsAdultsDeserveMurderOur ChildrenKillingTrackAvailableSolveScalesFlagsBad GuysInfluentialFlag Waving Author:Barbara Kingsolver
“In the event of an oxygen shortage on airplanes, mothers of young children are always reminded to put on their own oxygen mask first, to better assist the children with theirs. The same tactic is necessary on terra firma. There's no way of sustaining our children if we don't first rescue ourselves. I don't call that selfish behavior. I call it love.” IfsWayFirstsChildrenYoungMotherEventsBehaviorOur ChildrenSelfishMaskAirplaneRescueOxygenTacticsShortageYoung ChildrenSustaining Author:Joyce Maynard
“To be told that our child's behavior is "normal" offers little solace when our feelings are badly hurt, or when we worry that hisactions are harmful at the moment or may be injurious to his future. It does not help me as a parent nor lessen my worries when my child drives carelessly, even dangerously, if I am told that this is "normal" behavior for children of his age. I'd much prefer him to deviate from the norm and be a cautious driver!” IfsMayChildrenLittlesDoeMomentsHelpingFeelingsAgeParentHurtWorryOffersBehaviorNormalOur ChildrenMy ChildrenHelp MeDriversNormCautiousSolaceDeviate Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“Parents ought, through their own behavior and the values by which they live, to provide direction for their children. But they need to rid themselves of the idea that there are surefire methods which, when well applied, will produce certain predictable results. Whatever we do with and for our children ought to flow from our understanding of and our feelings for the particular situation and the relation we wish to exist between us and our child.” NeedsWellsChildrenIdeasFeelingsCertainValuesWishParentUnderstandingResultsSituationProduceParticularOughtBehaviorFlowRelationOur ChildrenMethodPredictable Author:Bruno Bettelheim
“I think there's an unnatural amount of social pressure on women, particularly mothers, to conform to certain standards of behavior, particularly in regard to our children.” ThinkingChildrenMotherCertainSocialAmountBehaviorStandardsPressureRegardOur ChildrenConformUnnaturalSocial Pressure Author:Jillian Medoff
“Teaching our children is more than just imparting information. It's helping our children get the doctrine into their hearts in a way that it becomes part of their very being and is reflected in their attitudes and behavior throughout their lives.” WayHeartChildrenHelpingAttitudeTeachingInformationBehaviorOur ChildrenDoctrine Author:Cheryl A. Esplin
“Belonging to the Catholic Church gives your support to an organization that conceals and protects child rapists. Again, not as a few isolated incidents, but as a massive, institution-wide culture, a matter of policy even, that extends throughout the organization and reaches all the way to the top. Belonging to the Catholic Church - giving them money, letting them count you in their rolls, sending your children to their schools - gives this behavior your personal thumbs-up, and actively enables it to continue.” WayGivingChildrenMatterSchoolCultureChurchSupportPolicyProtectBehaviorOrganizationOur ChildrenCatholicInstitutionsWideYour ChildrenMassiveBelongingIsolatedIncidentsThumbsCatholic ChurchProtecting ChildrenThumbs Up Author:Greta Christina
“Those traumas when it comes to the historical past generation to generation; our children, our grandchildren, our future grandchildren learn these behaviors. We have to know that they exist and we have to take care of those traumas and learn to heal from them. This movie shows that perspective from Scott's character, and I love it. It shows the American Indians as the ones who respect and help out when people are needed. It's a nice little twist.” PeopleKnowsChildrenLittlesCharacterHelpingShowsCarePastNiceGenerationsPerspectiveNeededBehaviorOur ChildrenHistoricalTraumaTake CareHealOur FutureGrandchildrenTwistsAmerican IndianPast Generations Author:Adam Beach
“We warn our children and grandchildren about peer pressure. We want them to say no to the vices of the world: drinking, drugs, and other destructive behaviors. But as we move from childhood to adulthood, we find the peer pressure changes. Daniel 3:2 notes "the satraps, the administrators, the governors, the counselors, the treasurers, the judges, the magistrates, and all the officials of the provinces" were there. I'm sure more than one of them thought they needed to keep their job with all of its benefits. Not much has changed in two-and-a-half millennia.” WorldChildrenMovingChildhoodChangedJudgingDrugBehaviorOur ChildrenDrinkingAdulthoodGrandchildrenPeer PressureChildren And Grandchildren Author:O. S. Hawkins
“We raise our children, especially girls, to ignore their spontaneious reactions-we teach them not to rock the societal boat...By the time she is thirty, the valient little girl's "Ick!"-her tendency to respond, to rock the boat, when someone's actions are really mean, may have been exciese from her behavior, and perhaps from her very mind.” MindMayMeanChildrenLittlesHas BeensActionGirlTeachRocksBehaviorOur ChildrenRaisesReactionsTendenciesBoatThirtyReally Mean Author:Martha Stout
“If you can control your behavior when everything around you is out of control, you can model for your children a valuable lesson in patience and understanding... and snatch an opportunity to shape character.” IfsChildrenCharacterOpportunityParentLessonsShapesBehaviorModelsOur ChildrenParentingValuableYour ChildrenValuable LessonsParenthood Funny Author:Jane Clayson Johnson
“If you are a parent, you have probably already realized that your children are always watching what you do. And just as children watch their parents and emulate their behavior, so do employees who are watching their bosses.” IfsChildrenParentLeadershipWatchesBehaviorOur ChildrenYour ChildrenEmployeeBossEmulate Author:John C. Maxwell
“I doubt that we can ever successfully impose values or attitudes or behaviors on our children certainly not by threat, guilt, or punishment. But I do believe they can be induced through relationships where parents and children are growing together. Such relationships are, I believe, build on trust, example, talk, and caring.” BelieveChildrenTogetherValuesI BelieveParentAttitudeDoubtGrowingExampleTrustBehaviorOur ChildrenGuiltThreatCaringPunishmentFather SonChildren And ParentsGrowing Together Author:Fred Rogers
“Forgive a wife-slammer if you can. But you don't have to live with him. Forgive a husband who is abusing your children if you can. But only after you kick him out of the house. And if you can't get him out, get help. It's available. In the meantime, don't let him near the kids, and don't let anyone tell you that if you forgive him it means you have to stay with him. [There's an important difference between forgiving a person and tolerating their bad behavior.]” IfsMeanChildrenPersonsImportantHelpingKidsHouseDifferencesWifeHusbandBehaviorForgivenessOur ChildrenForgivingAvailableYour ChildrenKicksBad Behavior Author:Lewis B. Smedes
“Your tax dollars are being used to pay for grade school classes that teach our children that CANNIBALISM, WIFE-SWAPPING, and the MURDER of infants and the elderly are acceptable behavior.” ChildrenSchoolUsedPayClassTeachLearningWifeTaxesBehaviorMurderOur ChildrenDollarsScaryGradesAcceptableInfantElderlyCannibalismGrades In SchoolTax DollarsSwapping Author:Jesse Helms