“Over and over again in my life, I find closeness to other people and proximity to other people really painful; that's part of my mental illness, social anxiety. Closeness to other people is really hard, but it's also a shame because it's all you want too. But it doesn't always work.” PeopleWantHardSocialAnxietyShamePainfulIllnessMental IllnessClosenessProximitySocial Anxiety Author:Adam Duritz
“There's so much shame involved in not being like everyone else. But I learned that the things that made me unique were good. Dealing with problems can be awful. But in the end I got positive results. I don't think I would have been a writer if I didn't have anxiety.” IfsThinkingHas BeensMadeEndsProblemResultsInvolvedAnxietyUniqueShameAwfulPositive ResultsDealing With Problems Author:Jenny Lawson
“The fears that assault us are mostly simple anxieties about social skills, about intimacy, about likeableness, or about performance. We need not give emotional food or charge to these fears or become attached to them. We don’t even have to shame ourselves for having these fears. Simply ask your fears, “What are you trying to teach me?” Some say that FEAR is merely an acronym for “False Evidence Appearing Real.” From Everything Belongs, p. 143” NeedsGivingTryingRealAsksSocialSimpleTeachEmotionalSkillsAnxietyEvidencePerformancesShameIntimacyAssaultAppearingSocial SkillsAcronyms Author:Richard Rohr
“Meditation did not relieve me of my anxiety so much as flesh it out. It took my anxious response to the world, about which I felt a lot of confusion and shame, and let me understand it more completely. Perhaps the best way to phrase it is to say that meditation showed me that the other side of anxiety is desire. They exist in relationship to each other, not independently.” WorldWayDesireFeltSidesMeditationAnxietyLet MeShameResponseFleshBest WayConfusionPhrasesAnxious Book:Open to Desire: The Truth About What the Buddha Taught Source: Open to Desire: The Truth About What the Buddha Taught
“Life...as God intended it enables us to live above the drag of fear, superstition, shame, pessimism, guilt, anxiety, worry, and all the negativity that keeps people from seizing each day as a gift from Him.” PeopleFearWorryAnxietyShameGuiltEach DayPessimismDragSuperstitionsNegativitySeizing Author:Charles R. Swindoll
“Feelings and stories of unworthiness and shame are perhaps the most binding element in the trance of fear. When we believe something is wrong with us, we are convinced we are in danger. Our shame fuels ongoing fear, and our fear fuels more shame. The very fact that we feel fear seems to prove that we are broken or incapable. When we are trapped in trance, being fearful and bad seem to define who we are. The anxiety in our body, the stories, the ways we make excuses, withdraw or lash out—these become to us the self that is most real.” WayFeelsBelieveRealSelfFactsStoriesFeelingsBodySeemsDangerBrokenProveElementsAnxietyShameExcuseConvincedWho We AreFuelFearfulTrappedIncapableOngoingBindingLashesTrance Author:Tara Brach
“It is vain to think that any weariness, however caused, any burden, however slight, may be got rid of otherwise than by bowing the neck to the yoke of the Father's will. There can be no other rest for heart and soul than He has created. From every burden, from every anxiety, from all dread of shame or loss, even loss of love itself, that yoke will set us free.” ThinkingHeartMaySoulFatherLossAnxietyShameBurdenVainNecksDreadHeart And SoulWearinessYokeLove Loss Book:The Hope of the Gospel: MacDonald's Works Source: The Hope of the Gospel: MacDonald's Works
“Quite often I have been faced with people who were praised and admired for their talents and their achievements... According to prevailing attitudes, these people-the pride and joy of their parents-should have had a strong and stable sense of self-assurance. But the case is exactly the opposite... Whenever they suddenly get the feeling they have failed to live up to some ideal image or have not measured up to some standard, then they are plagued by anxiety or deep feelings of guilt and shame. What are the reasons for such disturbances in these competent, accomplished people?” PeopleShouldHas BeensSelfReasonFeelingsJoyStrongParentAttitudeCasesTalentPrideAchievementAnxietyStandardsIdealsShould HaveOppositesShameGuiltAccomplishedStableAssuranceCompetentSense Of SelfPrevailingDisturbanceSelf AssuranceDeep Feeling Author:Alice Miller