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Marshall B. Rosenberg was a renowned psychologist known for his theory of Nonviolent Communication. His theory emphasizes the importance of listening and expressing needs to promote harmonious relationships. Rosenberg was born on October 6, 1934, and passed away on February 7, 2015.

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Famous Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes

“The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Imagine connecting with the human spirit in each person in any situation at any time. Imagine interacting with others in a way that allows everyone's need to be equally valued. Imagine creating organizations and life-serving systems responsive to our needs and the needs of our environment.”

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“Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other. For example, if to be in love, or to be married, it means that I'm responsible for the other person's happiness, now we get into this guilt game, where if they're upset, I'm at fault. Soon, that makes the person we are closest to about as much fun to be around as a prolonged dental appointment.”

“I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving.”

“Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.”

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“This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.”

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“I have tried to integrate the spirituality into the training in a way that meets my need not to destroy the beauty of it through abstract philosophizing.”

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Book:Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication

Source: Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication

“It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life.”

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Book:Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication

Source: Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication

“We want people to change because they see better ways of meeting their needs at less cost, not because of fear that we're going to punish them, or 'guilt' them if they don't. This applies to ourselves as well.”

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“Empathy allows us to re-perceive our world in a new way and move forward.”

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“The best way I can get understanding from another person is to give this person the understanding, too. If I want them to hear my needs and feelings, I first need to empathize.”

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“Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.”

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Book:The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World

Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World

“We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Nonviolent Communication is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to that beauty within ourselves and others, and not saying anything that we think might in any way tarnish people's consciousness of their own beauty.”

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“NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.”

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“People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.”

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Book:We Can Work it Out: Resolving Conflicts Peacefully and Powerfully

Source: We Can Work it Out: Resolving Conflicts Peacefully and Powerfully

“Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.”

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“While we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or for ourselves.”

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“The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.”

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Book:Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

“Nonviolent Communication shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, without any insults, without any put-downs, without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.”

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“I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.”

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“Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Teacher, school administrators and parents will come away from Life-Enriching Education with skills in language, communication, and ways of structuring the learning environment that support the development of autonomy and interdependence in the classroom.”

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Book:Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships