marshall-b-rosenberg Quotes About empathy

“If I use empathy to liberate people to be less depressed, to get along better with their family, and at the same time not inspire them to use their energy to rapidly transform systems in the world, then I am part of the problem. I am essentially calming people down, making them happier to live in the systems as they are, and I am using empathy as a narcotic.”

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“Now, with regard to the people who have done things we call "terrorism," I'm confident they have been expressing their pain in many different ways for thirty years or more. Instead of our empathically receiving it when they expressed it in much gentler ways -- they were trying to tell us how hurt they felt that some of their most sacred needs were not being respected by the way we were trying to meet our economic and military needs -- they got progressively more agitated. Finally, they got so agitated that it took horrible form.”

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Book:Speak Peace in a World of Conflict: What You Say Next Will Change Your World

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“The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.”

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“Empathy before education.”

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“Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being”

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“Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves.”

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“We give empathy to others for our own benefit.”

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“We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.”

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“When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.”

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“Have you ever been surfing? Imagine you're on your surfboard now, waiting for the big one to come. Get ready to get carried with that energy. Now, here it comes. That's empathy. No words - just being with that energy. When I connect with what's alive in another person, I have feelings similar to when I'm surfing.”

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“I recommend allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before turning our attention to solutions or requests for relief. When we proceed too quickly to what people might be requesting, we may not convey our genuine interest in their feelings and needs; instead, they may get the impression that we're in a hurry to either be free of them or to fix their problem. Furthermore, an initial message is often like the tip of an iceberg; it may be followed by yet unexpressed, but related - and often more powerful - feelings.”

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“By maintaining our attention on what's going on within others, we offer them a chance to fully explore and express their interior selves. We would stem this flow if we were to shift attention too quickly either to their request or to our own desire to express ourselves.”

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“What evidence is there that we've adequately empathized with the other person? First, when an individual realizes that everything going on within has received full empathic understanding, they will experience a sense of relief. We can become aware of this phenomenon by noticing a corresponding release of tension in our own body.”

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“A second even more obvious sign is that the person will stop talking. If we are uncertain as to whether we have stayed long enough in the process, we can always ask, "Is there more that you wanted to say"?”

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“We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out.”

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“Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.”

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“Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.”

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“Tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy. People are hungry for empathy, They don't know how to ask for it.”

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“All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions.”

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“We need empathy to give empathy.”

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“In empathy, you don't speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with your body. If you say any words at all, it's because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection with what's alive in you.”

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“I wouldn't expect someone who's been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain.”

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“Intellectual understanding blocks empathy.”

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“We need to receive empathy to give empathy.”

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“Empathy lies in our ability to be present without opinion.”

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“Empathy gives you the ability to enjoy another person's pain.”

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“The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.”

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“The number one rule of our training is empathy before education.”

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“It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.”

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“Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.”

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“Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.”

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“Empathy allows us to re-perceive our world in a new way and move forward.”

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“With empathy, I'm fully with them, not full of them — that's sympathy.”

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“With empathy we don't direct, we follow. Don't just do something, be there.”

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“It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources.”

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“Our goal is to create a quality of empathic connection that allows everyone's needs to be met.”

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Book:Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

“To be able to hear our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.”

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“Postpone result/solution thinking until later; it's through connection that solutions materialize - empathy before education.”

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“Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.”

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“Time and again, people transcend the paralyzing effects of psychological pain when they have sufficient contact with someone who can hear them empathically.”

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“If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met.”

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“The best way I can get understanding from another person is to give this person the understanding, too. If I want them to hear my needs and feelings, I first need to empathize.”

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“NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.”

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“Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking it as a rejection, revive lifeless conversation, and even hear the feelings and needs expressed through silence.”

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“Life-Enriching Education: an education that prepares children to learn throughout their lives, relate well to others, and themselves, be creative, flexible, and venturesome, and have empathy not only for their immediate kin but for all of humankind.”

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Book:Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

“Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing. Instead of offering empathy, we often have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. Empathy, however, calls upon us to empty our mind and listen to others with our whole being.”

“In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Then we may wish to reflect back, paraphrasing what we have understood. We stay with empathy, allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or requests for relief.”

“To do this, you can bring in nothing from the past. So the more psychology you've studied, the harder it will be to empathize. The more you know the person, the harder it will be to empathize. Diagnoses and past experiences can instantly knock you off the board. This doesn't mean denying the past. Past experiences can stimulate what's alive in this moment. But are you present to what was alive then or what the person is feeling and needing in this moment?”

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“If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off the board. You're into the future. Empathy requires staying with the energy that's here right now. Not using any technique. Just being present. When I have really connected to this energy, it's like I wasn't there. I call this "watching the magic show". In this presence, a very precious energy works through us that can heal anything, and this relieves me from my "fix-it" tendencies.”

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“When you ride the wave, the thrill is so exhilarating that you forget everything else. You live in the moment where nothing else matters, so intent on riding the wave perfectly that you and the wave become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, akin to flow. Similarly, when giving empathy, you want to strive for this kind of total presence for the person you are listening to.”

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