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“Two words sum up being the daughter of a narcissistic mother: deep sorrow. It was like a massive boulder sat on my chest. Choking me. Suffocating me. Drowning me. Spinning my life out of control. My memories of growing up to become an adult woman who suffered ritual narcissistic abuse had a common thread: Tears. Drama. And compounded trauma.”

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“The narcissistic mother is a lethal force to reckon with. If you don’t give her the flattery she craves, she will lash out at you like a rattlesnake. Unraveling, she has an emotional meltdown. She flies into a frenzy, shouting at you, bullying you, gaslighting you, and manipulating you. If she’s anything like my mother, she will victim-blame you with F-bombs flying!”

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“Oftentimes, the scapegoat feels worthless and powerless. After being beaten down, year after year, we have a strong sense of false guilt. Unconsciously, we take the narcissist’s guilt as if it were our own. As if it were our fault. As if we are deserving of mental torture and physical abuse.”

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“The biggest hurdle most scapegoats face is the fear of doing something wrong by going grey rock, no contact, or upsetting the narcissist if you distance yourself. You walk on eggshells. You don’t feel safe. You don’t know from one minute to the next how the narcissist will react to you. At any moment, they can explode!”

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“If you were raised as child by a narcissistic mom, you may have spent a lifetime being mistreated and shamed for things that you never did. Toxic shame is a result of being told you are not enough. You may feel worthless and unlovable.”

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“A family scapegoat is burdened with criticism, toxic shame, and blame for something they have not done. The wrongdoings of others are projected onto them. You were a convenient receptacle for your insecure family members who were incapable or unwilling to take responsibility for their own actions, words, and behaviors.”

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“False guilt is feeling guilty when one is not actually guilty. Genuine guilt is a result of wrongdoing. It is appropriate to feel guilty if we had done something wrong. However, false guilt is rooted in deception, denial, and dysfunction. It is directly connected to our destructive and codependent relationship with a narcissist.”

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“Narcissistic fathers leave their daughters with deep doubts about whether a man can love them, since the first important man in their life was so in love with himself that he had no love left for them. If you are a daughter of a narcissistic father you may have withdrawn from men and bound yourself to mother, either overtly or emotionally. Or you may be engaged in a self-destructive attempt to be his kind of girl, whatever that is, as you try desperately to extract his love. Perhaps you have transferred this into a masochistic position with other men, finding a narcissistic man incredibly attractive as you try to master the mystery of winning his love. And narcissistic men appeal to you because you wish you could be that way yourself - assertive, not giving a damn, self-important - but you lack the confidence to do it yourself so you identify with the man who has their quality, even if it's at your expense. (I have often seen this revealed in those instances where a woman has suffered through a degradingly submissive and abusing relationship with a man, or a series of men, and then, gaining the strength to break that kind of bondage, violently overturns the tables and abuses that man, or the next man in her life, as degradingly as she was misused. It's not just revenge, but the release of hidden desire to be powerful and to be able to control father and make him beg for her love.)”

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Book:Cutting Loose: An Adult's Guide to Coming to Terms with Your Parents
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“Legacy for my daughter matters more than competition, one-upping, or trying to make someone look bad. These pages exist for the long-term endurance of this narrative, so she can see another perspective and a bigger picture, whether I am here or gone.”

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Book:Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.
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“The narcissistic mother cannot give her child unconditional love. She’s not capable of being self-less, devoted, warm, mature, or attentive to you. Instead, everything is about her. Life revolves around meeting her unrealistic, immature needs. She expects your undivided attention. Your admiration. Your praises. Your loyalty to her. She demands you to meet her needs no matter how ridiculous they can be.”

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“One of the challenges adult children of narcissistic mother’s face is the myth that every mother is giving, nurturing, and gracious. Worldwide, this is a false notion and taboo topic. For many adult children, they are scolded by our society who chides, “But it’s your MOTHER!” Despite the fact that we’ve spent a lifetime suffering chronic mental abuse, rejection, criticisms, and scapegoating by our mothers, most people don’t believe us, don’t understand us, nor have they personally experienced narcissistic abuse by their mothers.”

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“Emotional abuse is designed to undermine another's sense of self. It is deliberate humiliation, with the intent to seize control of how others feel about themselves.”

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Book:Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse
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“Moments documented include not only personal experiences but also efforts made toward truth, accountability, and peace. These steps were taken so my daughter is not left holding only half the story.”

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“It’s perplexing how family members claim their undying love for us. They can say whatever they choose, but their actions and behaviors don’t match their words. There is an imbalance in the relationships with distinct discrepancies, especially in who overpowers the scapegoat.”

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“In 2018, I publicly disclosed that I had experienced psychological abuse by my sisters. Prior to uploading my first YouTube video on this sensitive topic, I had no idea if anyone else would relate. Shortly after my video went live, I received hundreds of comments by strangers who shared similar stories of being bullied, manipulated, gaslit, and abused by their own siblings. Five years later, my videos now have over 163,234K views and thousands of comments.”

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Book:Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
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“As a reflect on my life, here is what I have learned, how I have grown, and how I've been transformed. Little Dana as a child may have been a people-pleaser. She may have been a vulnerable, naive girl who was controlled by her mean-spirited family members. But that little girl doesn’t exist. Not anymore.”

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Book:Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
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“When a narcissist and flying monkeys see that you are onto their sly tricks, they will argue with you. This is their final attempt to find a way out of getting caught. No matter how much they scream, cuss, and fight with you, their arguments are to trip you up. They want to provoke you into more conflicts. Remember, they crave narcissistic supply. This is why they are projecting and gaslighting you. They need you to have a negative emotional reaction to them. It feeds the fuel with them. Don’t participate in the drama, denial, and dysfunction.”

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“Acknowledgment remained absent long-term. She would push to the point of sickness through drinking and activities that made recovery more difficult. She would refuse to rest, often requiring extended recovery, would acknowledge the issue briefly, then forget and repeat it.”

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Book:Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.
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“NO CONTACT is not just a survival tactic. It's not just a self-care method. It's a revolution. It's a confirmation. It's the acknowledgement of your worth, your value, your right to live free from abuse, mistreatment and cruelty. It's a supreme validation of the fact that you deserve to forge the path to freedom from a perpetual war zone. It's a declaration that you are enough - and that you've had enough.”

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Author:Shahida Arabi
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“I feel like my ex-wife could pass the most sophisticated lie detector tests and convince an experienced forensic psychophysiologist that specific lies she tells are true. I believe she knows she is lying about certain things, but I have also found that specific narratives she has constructed over time appear to her as absolute, undeniable truths, regardless of evidence to the contrary. I find this delusional and dangerous.”

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Author:Neal Winsomer
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“Unchallenged affirmation from those who accept an incomplete story harms her. Hidden truths remain concealed as she refutes all other claims.”

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Book:Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.
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“He was the most charming man I had ever met, holding doors open and always having an umbrella at the ready. But things changed. He had my son to control and quickly became jealous and mean - the charming man only when others were around. Behind closed doors, he was grumpy, demanding, entitled, spoiled, angry, and competitive.”

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Book:Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!
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“Swinging from attack and deflection to complete self-blame eradicates any chance for resolution or understanding.”

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Book:Calling Out the Shadows: A Father's Stand Against the Current: Clarity over comfort. Transparency over secrecy. Structure over spin. Love over anger.
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“Adults raised in a narcissistic homes cling to the fantasy that they can somehow manipulate or control their parent/family of origin system to get the recognition and approval they require (that is, to get their needs met.) They had this fantasy as children, and they maintain it as adults. The reality, though, is that they had little control over their parent system as children and have little control over it now.”

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Book:The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment
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“Once she knows you’ve broken her on purpose with an intention to hurt her and then laughed at her pain, enjoyed a bit of narcissistic kick, moved on to other and processing the same pattern She prepares for your funeral in her life, hate is a stronger emotion than love. Love may still have second thoughts and doubts but hate is a straight forward emotion listening to no other arguments.”

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“Even when you've gone full no contact, when does the narcissist actually ever stop with the shenanigans? They never stop trying to destroy you, do they? Your happiness is like ether to them, and your pain is their constant resuscitation. Is there no balm in Gilead”

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