“Never do anything that isn't play.”
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
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Famous Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes
“Punishment is the root of violence on our planet.”
Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding
“The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it.”
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
“Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.”
“Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.”
“Learning is too precious to be motivated by coercive tactics.”
“Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don't get resolved.”
“At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.”
“People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.”
“Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.”
“Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.”
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
“A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.”
“Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs.”
“We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act.”
“What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.”
“Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.”
“When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.”
“The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.”
“As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.”
“NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.”
“Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.”
“Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?”
“Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.”
“Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs”
“Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs.”
“What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.”
Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World
“Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.”
Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World
“We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.”
“We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.”
“As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.”
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
“I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.”
“Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.”
Source: We Can Work it Out: Resolving Conflicts Peacefully and Powerfully
“We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.”
“When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies.”
“NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.”
Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding
“People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.”
“The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.”
“All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.”
“Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.”